Only I can change my Life: This is a powerful quote by Carol Burnett talking about taking ownership of our life. Many times, particularly when things feel hard, we tend to blame the circumstances or people around us. Although a part of it might be true, we must ask the question so what? And this is the answer you’ll get for the so what question. Most often, the question – why does this happen to me feels us with sympathy, helplessness and blame. None of these help you find the solution. There’s only one person who can help you with this and that’s yourself.
This article is about the meaning of this quote – only I can change my life. We will also talk about concepts of self belief, confidence, taking ownership to reflect ton Carol Burnett’s quote
Quote: “Only I can change my life, no one can do it for me” by Carol Burnett. The discussion focuses on self-belief, doubts, passions, and true desires to help you achieve the one thing – ‘What you truly want in your life’.
Carol Burnett is an actress, comedian, TV host
Only I can change my life Meaning
We all have problems! They have the capacity to debilitate us, make us feel weak and helpless. It seems to be the general trend when things don’t happen the way we desire or plan. It is even worse when these problems take you by a surprise and you are not prepared with a solution.
Needless to say, you go through a gamut of emotions. It is hard even to explain what you are going through. The mind seems to revolve just around these outcomes and their impact on you. Although your emotions, feelings are perfectly justified, they all have one thing in common. They make you feel sad, helpless and full of negative thoughts with constant questions
- What can change this?
- How can I feel better?
- When will this stop?
You can go on in this circle of thoughts and I
One good approach to start solving this mess is in taking up the responsibility. The one constant statement ‘Only I can change my life‘. It is almost like a hymn, prayer which you need to tell yourself. Only I can change my life and get out of the mess I am in. It doesn’t matter how badly you are stuck, it’s not about that. The whole point is in getting out of the mess.
Self Belief and Self Confidence
The truth is – there is an awful lot out there to make you doubt yourself. It is very easy to wallow in self-doubt, guilt, helplessness. You can even score some sympathy which sometimes is mistaken as love by the mind. Ultimately your confidence and belief will help you move forward. (Related: Finding your confidence)
But ask yourself this: Yes, you have people who care for you. But they cannot fix your problems. They don’t have the time, patience and energy to sort out the mess your life is in. The problems you have in your life are your own. No one else is willing to take responsibility for this.
You cannot allow yourself to imagine that all these problems will go away magically. No one has that capacity but you. No one can change your life but you. You have got that power and the fascinating strength within which can make the impossible happen. If you don’t believe it, ask yourself ‘Is there any better belief which can help you out of this problem?’
No one can do it for me – Taking Ownership
This is the unfortunate truth. Sorry if I am harping this through the discussion. I am not even sure why I take this tone of trying to coach someone through. This is not intended to be a preaching session.
The monologue is just intended to ask the right questions, push you in the right directions and make you think. If we are on that journey, we would like to keep pushing. The answers might be uncomfortable. The questions might make you feel bad.
The point is, we are trying to find a solution, trying to make a discussion about how you can make your life better. That’s all we truly care about. And the beautiful fact nonetheless is ‘only you can change your life. No one can do it for you’.
Only I can change My Life, No one can do it for me
– Carol Burnett
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Everyone has got his own problems .So we have to work out for any change in our life Great thoughts.
True, the fabric of these challenges keep changing. If I may try and goad further, I think a common tendency is to ask for advice when we feel down. It is imperative to remember that each problem is a different fabric and no one’s solution or advice is the right fit for us. We have to take it with a pinch of salt and know that in the end, it is only our decision which can make a difference.
No matter how good any advice is, it has to make sense to the person in question – or else it just reaches a mute point. Thanks for your thoughts Antony, love to hear more
Completely true! You are the only person who can change your life mainly because your motivation is what drives things forward. Of course there are external factors that prevent or create road blocks but if you have the desire and determination you can change your life.
Indeed, desire, determination and motivation to take things forward. I like how the quote brings focus back to the one person who can truly make a difference and solve the problems that challenge us. Of course we will have external support, but we need to be ready to take that in.
In my case, I have been lucky to have had the road blocks and external support to sort out the problems. However, I do realise that it took some time for me to be ready to make use of the support systems. There was a period where the mind was stuck in its thoughts and trying to make sense. The defining moment of course was when I was ready and wanted to do something about it. It is fabulous to see that there is so much support out there when you reach out to a problem from a position of strength as opposed to weakness.
Indeed ! You are blessed to be able to come out of your problems
Well, I seem to have a knack to finding new ones quite frequently ;) :D
Absolutely true…..no one not even your loved ones can…maximum they can do it is to motivate…..it’s basically all in the mind….thanka
You mention a very important point Mayuresh. At the low points of disappointment, esp with after the IAS failures, I was a bit distraught. I went about it to everyone I loved and kept wondering why I wasn’t getting any help. This thought made a lot of difference to me – helped my mind away from the constant negative feeling which kept me wondering why no one is willing to help. Now that I look back, I realise how amazing the support I got was. People gave me time and opportunity to realise what I really want which looking back now is such a fantastic support. But the thought essentially is the same – it is your own thing, no one else can truly make a difference apart from you. That’s probably the beauty of every experience which goes south – it reminds us how strong and capable we are to make the difference we really want to :). Makes me respect everything the mind is capable of ten fold.