I was pretty happy when I wrote my previous post about 10 Step by Step Processes To Build Self Confidence in Life and I thought – well, this is it – simple and easy and I wondered – “Why is it hard to feel confident in life?” I mean life is so easy isn’t it?
To be very honest, I really was that presumptuous till I realised a step further to understand that confidence is not that straight forward a feeling, at least not to all people. I certainly was very simplistic when I told myself that confidence is easy. I guess it is easy to do the same thing over and over cos we gain a certain expertise in it and call it confidence. It is when we come across new things in life and wonder how to go about them and question ourself whether we have that capacity to do that.
The Zone of Under Confidence or Diffidence
I am quite happy that I was pushed to this zone where the ego goes to shatter a bit and you realise that when it comes to the new things, confidence is never really very easy. It depends on our attitude towards new challenges and what we want to derive out of those. One of my biggest problems was that I wanted to be great at everything I started – maybe it is a natural thing, we all would love to feel strong, great, be recognised by people around us so that we can strut around feeling that we really are amazing. It is a really wonderful feeling and I would definitely love to be in that zone all the time.
But then, let us face it – there are these moments of doubt where we wonder if we are the only ones who stand out to question, if we are the ones finding it difficult to get on track while the others seem to sail through quite easily. We miss out on something very important, we look at what we want to be but we rarely look at what we are doing and the effort we are putting in to reach the successes we desire in life. And even when we look at the efforts, we feel bad that the results are not exactly as we expected them to be. Truth is, it takes time – confidence in anything new takes time, we have all experienced that, we have all felt that with the so many new things we have learnt in our lives.
Fake it or Embrace It?
I know it is hard and I certainly appreciate the fact that we all feel low, but there is no point in trying to hide it and say that we are confident, there is a greater joy in accepting things the way they are and identifying how we want them to be and set ourselves out on a path to get what we want. Nothing in our life is going to come our way if we sit and wait for it to happen. Things happen very fast out here and it is a damn amazing feeling to be confident in life, to have that spirit of adventure instead of fear, to go out of our comfort zone to see that life is way more beautiful than we thought. The process without doubt sucks sometimes, but hey there is nothing in life called a free lunch – Is there?
That was our thought of the day – the effect of confidence, please share your thoughts and experiences below, we are all ears to hear more from you and continue our little debate.
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