As I sat inside my L board car I said, “I am going to drive like a champ!” If only I knew theory wouldn’t take me long. Going out and trying was tough, scarier than I thought, very stressful and a bad experience overall. I didn’t take out the car for few days and one day I was convinced by the thought “The best way to learn something is by doing” and guess what the result was?
No! Not what you thought! I was bad, again! With repetitive convincing and trying I have become a better driver today.
I am sure all of you have experienced something similar to this. Some of you might have experienced few challenges where you tend to give up early; I have faced a few and have given up within 24hrs unable realize my potential to do it. What’s holding us back?
I don’t know how to do it! Should I avoid it?
When an unexpected challenge approaches you, what would you say? Bring it on baby? Or hmm Its tough and don’t know to do! Well, I have been a huge fan of the latter sentence and that’s the reason I use it frequently. So why would I feel this? The first thing would be its NEW! It’s out of the comfort zone, there is an uncertainty about how it would work, the fear of not working out well. Enough reasons to cut short the attempt of trying right?
What is the harm in trying?
So, what if I tried? I may fail in the first attempt, might fail in second too and the third. I may keep hitting failures repeatedly. But one thing I am sure of is that my second attempt is going to be a little better than the first one and so on till I finally get it right. And how long should we try it? How long do you give a baby whether it starts to walk or not? You will give it till it does right? And then teach it to run, cycle and fall and a lot more. Why limit ourselves to one or two shots? Is the pain of failing that bad?
Sooo.. Let’s try and learn it!
Great I didn’t get it at the first shot! No one does! Every great guy was once an amateur. Let me be persistent to see the results. Now trying the Edison way “I haven’t failed. I have just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.”OK, I will make my initial failures as an experience to learn from and not repeat my mistakes. Not repeating the mistakes and trying the better ways to work with I gradually see positive results. On pushing myself a little harder everyday keeping aside the failures and being persistent I can see my results, POSITIVE RESULTS!
What you realize
We realize a lot of things in the process and something I have constantly kept telling is that ” Success is never final and failures are never fatal“. You got to keep trying to make it work. There are a thousand reasons as to why something might not work and a thousand more as to why they can. All you have to do is decide which side you want to give importance to. If you want to win and if you want that result badly, I would strongly suggest you believe the latter one. For if you want to fail, fail anyway, there will be lots of reasons to give, you don’t have to think of it right away.
You also realize that you are going to screw up!
You also realize that you are not perfect and your ego takes a beating. Let it take a beating! So what? It is not going to break you or me, it is going to put us through a new challenge, it is going to ask us a few uncomfortable questions. Well, try it out, you can either feel bad about it or be excited about it and start doing things differently.
Who you are and what you get to be…
I read somewhere that who you are and what you get to be is the greatest achievement in life. At the risk of sounding a little philosophical, I would say I strongly want to believe in that. Too many times we are lost in the pursuit of something, chasing success, chasing achievements, chasing money and a lot more other things and someone gets neglected in the process. It is the knowledge of who we are and what we want to do. Don’t you think that person deserves a little attention?
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