Well as our new tradition, we revisit the idea of some or at least one positive quotes per and here is today’s quote from Rudyard Kipling about people, and our perceptions. What is the first thing that comes to our mind when someone does something we don’t really like? How do we react to it?
What is our opinion about this person from now on? Well! Rudyard Kipling has an answer.
We have heard of this pretty often haven’t we? – It is wrong to judge people, it is wrong to say whether someone is right or wrong.
And it is wrong to have negative vibes about someone and lead a life full of positive aura. Although it sounds great in principle, I still seem to wonder how practical it is or any of these quotes really are.
But hey a question is always a great way to get us into the brainstorming session and that is what we are going to try today.
“I Always Prefer To See The Best Of Everybody,It Saves So Much Trouble”
says Rudyard Kipling. And I think – So Elegant! Right?
See the best in people, so simple and so easy. But why is it so hard to follow? If it was really easy then we would have no enemies at all.
But I see the intelligence in this quote. Ever heard of the statement – “Hate The Crime, Not the Doer?” Well it is something like that.
Everything we do, is a behavior of ours, some we have knowingly cultivated like greeting someone with a smile or being nice to someone new, etc. And some unknowingly cultivated like a cold reaction upon seeing someone or being rude and making snide remarks right to the face.
Basically every little or big thing we do is a behavior and a habit and slowly that becomes an attitude. And I am sure that none of us are in complete awe and love about our behaviors. There are some parts of us which we would like to work on and be better at. And there are other parts which we wish people would never know.
Nevertheless these are ours and we own them and the reason why we are afraid to show them to the general public is because we know that the public will not appreciate us for what we have and focus on what we don’t! And naturally we would like to be protective about it!
Well! So will the others. I think if we start looking at every occurrence with people as a behavior and start saying that I don’t like this particular behavior instead of saying – I hate him. It becomes a lot easier for us to work on our relationships.
There are and will be some wonderful aspects which we will love about these people and we do not want a bad behavior or a bad aberration spoil that. We would want that part to be untainted cos that is a beautiful segment which was already there. You wouldn’t want a bad experience discourage you from the beautiful experiences of life.
So would it be with people as well. As Mother Theresa said
“If you judge people, you have no time to love them”
In other words, hate the crime, not the doer :). Or like Kipling said – Just try to find the best in someone you meet, something you like and something you like to dwell on.
It doesn’t make you a great person, it doesn’t make the other person any smaller. But it surely improves the quality of your life. It is an attitude to find beauty in things and it is a habit to find the fault with our stars.
The choice is ultimately ours, do we want to bitch about things or do we want to enjoy them?
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