The afternoon showers looked like it didn’t want to stop. It was the heavy rains that took control of the city, filling the roads with muddy water to make driving challenging. The traffic was messed up and upon that the traffic jams complemented the trouble. Luckily, we were with the car driver who made our lives a little less stressful.
I looked outside the window and all I saw was the rains and amidst it was the frowned faces completely annoyed with traffic jam and intolerable driving skills of people. To add more to the scene was the unbearable honking.
Our driver lost patience and it reflected on his driving. Each one was trying their turn to escape the jam and when it was ours I again looked out of the window, I saw the kindest smiles of that day. Amidst all the frown faces, there was a man driving a car with a happy face. Just not that, he even let us move first and smiled again.
I wondered how the man could be charming even in a situation like that. I am sure even he didn’t like the traffic and the traffic-jams, but he managed the situation gracefully without even affecting his mind to an extent like us.
The man’s smile was more than just a smile. It felt as though he was trying to tell me something. “You can smile too.” Probably that’s what he said.
The same evening, when I was riding my bike, I remembered the same smile and rode back home with a happy face. A simple smile from the man made my day better.
A simple smile made me wonder how a same situation, 2 different persons handle. I couldn’t change the situation I had to deal with, but I could have changed the way in which I dealt.
Tony Dungy rightly questions, “When you’re in a situation, you can complain about it, you can feel sorry, you can do a lot of things. But how are you gonna make the situation better?”
This reminds me of an incident from Thomas Edison’s life. When his factory was burning in fire, he stood calm minded watching it all fire over the place. Upon asked by his son Edison replied, “Charles, where is your mother? Bring her here. She will never see anything like this as long as she lives.” And continued seeing his factory burn in front of his eyes and announced to his son, “There is great value in disaster. All our mistakes are burned up. Thank God we can start anew.”
We all have bad days that make us go mad and we are tremendously affected by it. Maybe, those situations do not require that much of an attention. Maybe, we don’t realize how much energy we are wasting on something which is in-turn bringing sadness. Maybe, yes! We help ourselves be the victims of the unchangeable situations. We understand, to instantaneously convert a situation into something nice. It isn’t as easy as it sounds, but we are sure it isn’t as difficult also as we define it.
When you are stuck in difficult situations, you can think of Deepika Chopra’s thoughts, “No matter what the situation, remind yourself, I HAVE A CHOICE.” A choice at least on how to deal it.
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