“Oooh I really wanted to do that, I had so much of capacities and I could have done it so easily but alas…. “ Ever heard of these statements? I remember giving these reasons to myself constantly trying to rationalize as to what all things I could do. Surprisingly enough all these reasons were extremely logical, highly justified and very well thought out as well. And all of them are excellent ways to keep people off our back. Well I did succeed in doing that, but…
Well I guess we are all very smart people and rationalizations are easy to come by. I have often wondered why I have a very solid set of reasons as to why I did not do something and it never was ‘I couldn’t’ – it always was – ‘I could but I didn’t’ and that would have a list of reasons. And I wonder now – ‘what good came out of these reasons?’. Of course people bought these ideas, thoughts and even expressed sympathy for the challenges and for a moment I felt good cos I gratified my own ego in the process. Now that I look back at these and question myself- ‘What good came of this?’. All I have is a set of reasons and nothing else. The could haves and the would haves sounded really good, helped me feel better about myself but that was all they did, they never led me anywhere. The only thing that ever worked was shrugging these reasons off and keeping them aside.
The only thing I realize which made sense was looking at the outcome and questioning myself whether I liked it and if the answer was YES, I guess that answered everything needed. For no matter how many reasons we come up with as to why we did not do something, we still DID NOT DO IT – no matter what the reasons are. In the end no one really cares for reasons, not even us. Others might be satisfied with the rationalizations but would we be?