Worry is a menace!
What is worry? It is simply an unhealthy and a destructive mental habit. You were not born with the worry habit. You acquired it. That means, you can cast it off! (Source, Norman Vincent Paele, Power of Positive Thinking)
What are the ways and means to stop worrying and actually start living ? How can we make the worrying style simpler? How can we make it work for us instead of against…Maybe these bits can help..
IT IS OK
Remember 90% of the people we meet are worried about something or the other. Some let it bother them, some let it consume them, some fight over it and some fight about it. Very few stand above it and say – Hey it is a simple problem, a call for action, lets work on it rather than worry. It is ok to be worried, it is very natural, it is how you handle it which makes the difference
WHAT YOU FOCUS ON MATTERS
Remember, we often get what we focus on!
Stop focusing on the reasons as to why something might not work, focus instead on the reasons as to why that will work. This way, the mind is not fixated on matters that bring you down, instead on the things that can drive action and produce desirable results.
FACE YOUR FEARS
I am not talking about trying to move the mountain in the first go, it is about making those incremental shifts. Facing a fear is like building a muscle, you have to start with smaller ones and without your knowledge, a consistent action in this front will make you more capable to handle fears better. Here are 7 creative ways you can face your fears
Face your fears.
WHAT IS THE WORRY TELLING YOU?
Identify the message
the worrying is trying to convey. Each emotion we face on a regular basis is a signal, it is a call for action. Try and understand what the worry is trying to tell you, what action it is calling for. Act on it and you will find a new horizon opening up for you.
UNCERTAINTY IS NOT THAT BAD
Uncertainty as a major source of energy.
Most times we realize that the worry is due to the fact that the outcome is very uncertain. I believe that is how life is going to be. The beauty of life is that things are uncertain, nothing is promised in this world. But once you start embracing it, that is something which drives us, makes us work, helps us find solutions. It is a powerful way, be thankful for it and here are 10 ways to handle uncertainty in Life
Gratitude – Be thankful.
We are in a culture where we are extremely thankful when things work out for us and when it is the opposite way, we make sure that we curse in all fronts. What if we go the other way. What if we thank the situation and the challenge it is posing. What if we say – I am thankful for this because —– Find the reasons, I am sure there will be very interesting ones. It is not about avoiding the problem, it is about acknowledging, appreciating and finding a way out of it. Your problems are your own friends.Here are 7 reasons for you to be thankful in life
A mind in its weak spot tries to link all the negative emotions and make a story out of it. I agree that it is going to be extremely logical and very well justified, but remember it is your weak mind at action, a vulnerable phase. Let it pass, the moment shall pass, go for a run, listen to music, challenge someone for a fight :D. Pump up the adrenaline. The point is you need to bring your faculties thankin your favour to make things happen for you. It is a holistic picture you need to look at, not the one negative strand that builds the story
FIND THE RIGHT PEOPLE TO SPEND TIME WITH
It is natural that when we feel anxious, that we go and find people who are equally anxious, maybe it is a way of finding comfort, the feeling of not being left out and the thought of being with someone who can understand you. I understand the reasoning, but the question is – Is it giving you the solution you need? Do you want a solution or do you want to feel sorry about it? Find the right people, people who can fight, people who appreciate the difficulties. If it is hard to find such ones, then try and be one, without your knowledge you start attracting a similar kind. Remember –
Birds of a feather flock together!
WHAT IS THE WORST THAT CAN HAPPEN?
Ask yourself – What is the worst that could happen?, try and prepare for it. This could help us in most scenarios, if we are prepared for the worst, it takes care of the fear element, the surprises don’t seem daunting anymore cos the worst doesn’t seem that bad.
I agree that just reading this will not solve the worries, neither does it change the complete pattern and start working for us. It is a set of ideas, some we can implement right away, some that can percolate, all of which can make a difference and a value add to our lives. It is about how consistently we try to bring in the new pattern and elevate a new life style.
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