How To Achieve Your Goals And Dreams!
I have a dream, you have a dream, we all have a dream and we love to be in that fantastic world where this dream is achieved and everything we touch turns pure gold. Isn’t it a fantastic reverie to be in such a world where you feel how great this life is and keep wanting more of it? I know I certainly love such a world and I would love to get into that fantastic mode.
But then, something wakes us up, tells us that it was all a dream and we should not associate a lot of meaning to it and there are a lot of other ways you can lead a happy life. Of course there is not BIG FAT LIE there, but there is no BIG FAT TRUTH either. It somehow gives a great escape and tells us that it is OK not to pursue our dreams.
We have of course talked a lot about dreams on this site and we will keep talking about them for they are the only ones that are going to keep us alive in the long run, they are the ones which make us live and relive our lives and they are the ones which make us reach out to the inner self and find a way to set it free.
Here are the top 10 reasons to avoid to achieve your dreams and goals in life.
1) THE RATIONALIZATIONS
“The dream is too difficult, it is a super human task to achieve it. The world is not ready for it, the market will not understand the product, I have a lot of commitments, there are a lot of people depending on me, people in my home do not understand the meaning of a dream, I have come from a family of difficulties and risk taking does not come naturally to me”
Do any of these reasons sound familiar? Have you by any chance used them at any point in your life? I know I have, and there is nothing wrong in that, we all have done that at some stage of our life and we have also faced its results. One of the strongest reasons why we have have these rationalizations is that it is easier to say that it was the mistake of the dream than to own up the responsibility. It is tough to say that I did not do something cos it opens up another question – WHY?!
I know I am being a little too harsh here, but we are talking about something most precious to you, I would rather be harsh than just trying to make you feel good or happy about yourself. We would rather look at the solution than the feel good factor.
2) WHAT IS THE DREAM
Well! What was this dream of yours? What did you want to achieve in LIFE? Please do write to us below, we love listening to dreams and contemplating on them and if possible maybe find a way if there is to figure a way to achieve them!
So what was this dream of yours? Something that made you extremely excited that you left everything else you were doing, something that would turn your attention toward it no matter what you did, something that would wake you in the middle of the night and bring a smile to your face. What was this dream of yours? What did you want to achieve?
3) WHY DO WE WANT TO ACHIEVE THIS DREAM?
Why did you want to achieve this dream? Was it to make the world a better place, was it to ease out the challenges you were facing, was it to tell yourself that you are capable of doing it, was it to prove a point, was it to discover or invent an extraordinary solution.
Whatever these reasons were/are, they are the most divine ones, they are the ones that are going to decide whether you are going to reach your dream or not.
One of the most beautiful statements I have ever read is this “If you have a strong enough WHY, you will figure out the HOW!”
4) HOW TO ACHIEVE THIS DREAM?
Well, we are on the right path of chasing the dream. Esp when you have a very strong answer for the question above, the HOW is the next immediate one and a sensible one. This is the place where you will have a lot of options. Ideally, it is best to list out the three best solutions you can come up with, choose the best one and set yourself into action. There are a lot of things you realize when you are acting on a solution vs contemplating on it.
There will be a lot of challenges you will come across and there will be a lot of solutions which you had never thought of, but one thing you have to be clear is THE ULTIMATE GOAL. The modes can go wrong, it is very natural to make a mistake and it is very natural that the most perfect plan may not work out.
But that is not your goal, it is just a way to reach your goal. You cannot afford to let that distract you. You just have to find another way to make it work.
Remember, the only choice you have is to make it work, the HOW may vary, but you got to make it work!
5) WHAT DOES IT TAKE TO ACHIEVE THIS DREAM?
What does it take according to you? The answer to this question lies in what the dream means to you! If it means that much to you, then I would say it takes everything you got!
A dream is something that is going to make you uncomfortable from time to time but you would not mind that cos you know where you are headed, the problems or the challenges are just the set backs and roadblocks in this journey of yours, but they alone are not going to decide anything for you. The only thing that decides the outcome is the passion behind your dream and the need to achieve it!
6) DO I HAVE IT IN ME?
If you ask your relatives or neighbors or parents, the answer is directly proportional to the amount of risk it entails. If it is a risky proposition, the straight forward answer you get is a NO! Honestly, they are going to say no, not because they don’t care about you, but cos they would have never taken that risk in life and the unknown scares them.
So… Ask the right person, ask yourself. Do you have it in you? Come on, you should not be thinking this, if you have a strong enough WHY, there is no place for this question. The answer is undoubtedly a YES!
7) WHAT OTHER CHOICES DO I HAVE?
After all these questions and setting up of a dream, one of the most common questions that comes to our intelligent minds is the alternatives. Is there a safer option? Is there a solution with less risk and more gains – this is where our rational man becomes happily active and starts giving out various options. And the more you think about it and ask people around, the more solutions you get. Just one question though, how close is each of these solutions to your dream?
The moment you realize that it is distracting you from the ultimate purpose, steer away. It is ok to be rude, it is ok to screw up sometimes, it is ok to be irrational. We are not buying a product advertised on TV here, we are talking about something precious for us, so stop being extremely rational about it!
8) IT IS VERY PAINFUL TO LOSE, HENCE I WON’T TRY
Well the moment we see options, we see the cost benefit analysis. We see that one of them has the least risk and the natural tendency is to go after it. One of the strangest things about the human mind is that we cling on to the feeling of losing something easily.
How many times have you been trapped by a sign which says – Last day of discount sales and went on to the show room even if you didn’t want something
How many times have you went to a silly play cos it was the last time ever it was going to be telecast?
How many times have you forced yourself to eat an extra morsel since you will not have that opportunity again?
Well, isn’t it a similar line here? It hurts to miss out on something, but something we don’t look at is how painful it is not to follow up on your dream. The pain of regret is a lot more powerful than the pain you are going to face through action.
9) IT IS NOT WORKING OUT, MAYBE IT IS TIME TO SHIFT BACK
Well, isn’t that an option or a way out? I know that it hurts when something doesn’t work, but it doesn’t mean that it is not going to work at all! A deviation may not mean that it is the end of the road.
Very easily we tend to assume the worst, give ourselves a rationalization that you tried something and it did not work and you came back. But again, that was not why you started, was it?
Wasn’t it a further compelling reason, wasn’t it a stronger you who decided to go against all odds and achieve something in LIFE? Then why do you want to listen to a weaker YOU who is responding to defeat and base your decision on that?
10) PLAN A, B, C, D , E, ,……………………..X,Y,Z……. A1, A2, ……………………..Z1, Z2,……………
“People are beset not by the lack of opportunity but by a dizzying abundance of them”. We always have an exit route, if something does not work, there is something else to save our soul.
We always save for the rainy day. On one end it is considered smart, but on the other, sometimes you got to know that it holds you back. If you are focused on a dream, then for the sake of it, stay with it. There will be plenty of alternate plans later on, but not right now.
It is not the time to try and find escape routes, it is the time to dream, it is the time to follow your goal to reach your destiny!
So… What is your dream?
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