There are a lot of people who shower their sympathy on you but it’s just a few countable ones who show empathy and those are the only ones with whom you can share your pain and talk your heart out. I came across this simple and a very sensible video showing the power of empathy. Watch the video and you’ll know what kind of person you are – sympathetic or the empathetic.
Differentiating Empathy and Sympathy:
The very first point the video talks about- Empathy feels connection, Sympathy drives disconnection. I made a quick check for the definition of the two words and here is what it meant
Empathy– The ability to understand and share the feeling of another.
Sympathy– Feelings of pity and sorrow for someone else’s misfortune.
The definition of Empathy clearly starts with the words ‘ability to understand’ ones you are capable of doing that you are much capable of setting up connection and it’s mostly the much deeper and much valuable connection with people. You are adding a little extra of you when you are empathetic and that little extra is UNDERSTANDING.
The video has showed you the clear difference between the two emotions and you clearly know empathy stands out. You always prefer someone who can understand the emotional pain and suffering you are undergoing over someone who is aware and feel sad for your sufferings because you know the empathetic ones are kind enough and patient enough to listen to you which results in comforting you better.
How to show Empathy ?
The video talks about the 4 aspects of Empathy. Implementing the same in life :
Perspective taking– Everyone has his own perspective over everything in life. Changing your perspective to the perspective of the man who is in pain is the first step towards showing empathy.
Staying out of judgement– Well, we knowing or unknowingly judge a lot. I am not saying judging is a sin but we all know not judging is a better option for us in many ways. Not judging someone in trouble is a crucial step towards being empathetic. The more you judge the more you move apart from understanding someone
Recognising the emotion in other person– This is probably the tough step but this is where you score 70% of your marks. It’s easy to say a few kind words and walk ahead but it takes a lot of concern and love to understand the emotional drift the person has undergone.
Communicating accordingly – This is a wise step. The ending point and you have to give your best shot. Your words are valuable and precious especially at the times when someone needs it badly. Make sure you have followed the rest of the 3 steps to give the perfect ending. Your words have the healing power and they can bring a lot of difference in someone’s life 🙂
Empathy is definitely a strong way to connect to someone and comfort them with the best of you. And here is what Susan Sarandon says