“What we see depends mainly on what we look for”
– John Lubbock
Quite a simple one isn’t it? We are what we see and we always get to see what we focus on.
It reminds me of an old adage where a young man asks a wise one as to why there is so much of misery in this world and his answer was as simple as – Because that is what you are trying to see.
Although the quote sounds very philosophical, I would rather argue about its practical aspect. Drawing from my experiences as a student, a teacher, an entrepreneur and also an engineer and maybe sometimes as a friend too, I have wondered where our natural focus lies.
As a student with a couple of days for the exam, I used to fret about all the things I didn’t know and was worried if they would be questioned in the exam. As an engineer, on every client call of mine, I used to fret if they asked me about the things I did not know. As a teacher, when I was on the stage, I used to wonder what would happen if the students did not like me. And so on.. I guess the experience still remains as fresh as it was yesterday.
But one thing is true, each time I held my focus on this, I was so conscious about the mishap happening that I almost ensured each time that it really happened. I guess we all are careful as people and we do not like to make any mistakes. And it so happens that this consciousness sometimes overtakes us and all we can think about is the mistake or the fear. And sometimes the fear gets the better off us.
It makes us think the worst of the situations and true enough the chances of that happening are more when we focus more on it. Some may argue that this fear is helping us prepare for the worst situation. I completely agree with you. Fear is a really good thing, but truth is that it is a very very good servant. But as a master, it has its own way of screwing our lives up completely. I am not suggesting to live in denial, but I am certainly suggesting of being aware of our choices and being aware of our focus.
If we have a greater chance at success by focusing on the positives, then why not create it as a habit instead of responding to our cultural training of guilt and feeling bad about it. People don’t have much time for sympathy in this world. Results matter here and we can get there better and faster the moment we start focusing on solutions than problems and the negativity around us.
There is a reason that these positive quotes sustain and this very well might be one. This is our daily quote for the day – Be careful what you focus on, it might very well be your next reality!
However, if the fears are still bothering, you might want to look at these11 practical steps to overcome fear in life
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