Have you ever had this feeling – the feeling that you don’t belong somewhere and people seem to be in a completely different pace than you are and you feel like getting away from there as soon as possible. Have you ever constantly felt that you are being singled out and forced at feeling socially awkward and there doesn’t seem to be anything happening around to which you can remotely relate to?
Well, here are 9 tips to make you feel less socially awkward and to gain a sense of confidence required to get you past through the annoying feeling
Well, we talk about this at every single post we make on communication skills – the body language, the smile, our gait, the eye contacts and so on. And by now, I am sure you would have seen so many websites talking about the need and how you must do the body language aspect. If not, we would like to recommend the wikihow on How to appear more approachable or the forbes post on the 6 body language mistakes which you don’t know you are doing which are quite well done.
Stop Being Too Conscious
Don’t be too concerned about what you are wearing. Don’t be worried about what mistake you are going to make or don’t be too bothered about how you are going to screw this up. Unless you play the drunk fool, you are really alright. No one is going to rag on you unless you do it on yourself.
Focus On What You Are And Not What You Aren’t
Now, this is pretty important. If we are driving focusing towards a wall, we can be sure as hell that we are going to hit that. Instead focus on where you want to go. The same adage applies here as well. We can’t try and focus on being socially acceptable if we keep thinking how socially awkward we are or what we are not good at. We need to play to our strengths and need to look out for opportunities for the same.
The most important thing is to identify what you have in common with the topic of discussion. No matter what social interaction you are in, you will know something about the topic to which you can contribute. You might not need to know everything about it, poeple rarely do, but it is important that you participate. The common topic is simply a reason for you to interact and feel at ease at the gathering. The rest of the magic will happen with time as you open up with people and as people open up with you.
The Friendly Faces.
Now this is quite important to feel less socially awkward. Find out a few friendly faces and if you are finding it really difficult, these can really be your saviours. We are not suggesting clinging on to them, but they sure can make your life comfortable and they will give you the feeling of being accepted and also fairly comfortable in a crowd of people where you don’t seem to know many.
Make Them Smile
No one ever is going to complain that you made them laugh. No one is going to complain that they had a good time with you and no one is going to complain about a good sense of humour especially when it is tastefully done. We did make a list of 13 things you should not do when you are trying to be funny which might save you a bit of trouble in the process.
Find Something Positive
This is a pretty important step. Everyone loves to hear a compliment as long as it is heartfelt and as long as it is real and appropriate. You will be able to find something to appreciate in the people you meet – maybe the hairstyle or the way they dress, the way of talking, the intonation – come on, there is so much to appreciate and there are so many wonderful things out there. And people would certainly love to be with someone who talks about them, especially when someone talks good about them 🙂
Although we do talk about communication skills, we can’t over emphasise the importance of listening too. It forms an intricate and an irreplaceable part of your social skills or in this case, prevention of you from being socially awkward. And again, no one is going to complain that you were a good listener right?
Everything Takes Practice – Feeling Socially Awkward Too
Well! There is nothing called free lunch. Nothing is going to magically transform in a single go in our favour. Lots of books and even articles seem to say so, but we do know that accepting something new into our lives is going to take its own time and we need to be welcoming of that. The more we push ourselves, the more we push ourselves out. Instead focus on getting there, step by step and we might actually be much closer than we think.
These were our 9 tips and techniques to stop feeling socially awkward and we are going to come up with a slideshow on the same for your further references.
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