My friends hate me for this! I have always discouraged the use of phone when I am talking to someone or in the middle of an interesting conversation of a debate. I mean there is a huge intensity in the talk, a lot of care and affection and suddenly the phone beeps and the other person picks it up inadvertently, not to disrespect me but just curious to see who it is and what they want to say. And I feel like stopping the conversation right there and punching them in the nose! Now why do I feel that? How is it perceived when you are in an intense conversation and the other person picks up the phone?
1) IT FEELS DISRESPECTFUL!
You might be listening to it very intently, perhaps more intently than the person nodding his head, but the moment you pick up the phone, as a talker I would feel that you are disrespecting me. It might be the disinterest on the topic but most people would not like to look beyond themselves. The first impression that comes to mind is that it feels that someone is purposefully avoiding that part of you or that conversation!
2) IT FEELS LIKE THAT YOU ARE NOT INTERESTED
A phone is a distraction, no matter what you say about it, the talker most times perceives it as one. It is ok if the matter is urgent, it is ok if it is a once in a time occurrence. But if it happens regularly, then I am sure you are looking at a tougher response and a difficult question to answer!
3) IT FEELS LIKE THE PHONE IS MORE IMPORTANT THAN ME!
Well! We both know that it is not true, we both know that it is just that you are curious and want to check who it is on the other line. But that is not the way I am going to see it, atleast not at that moment. It does seem rude!
4) I KNOW YOU ARE NOT A RUDE PERSON
I know that you are not rude, perhaps you are the sweetest person I know and you might be doing this inadvertently, completely unaware of what is happening. But it still sends a message that you are rude for the conversation
5) WHY DO WE PICK UP THE PHONE?
Well, is it because the phone call is more important? Is it because you have been waiting for this call all day and you haven’t heard from them at all? Is it because it is a very hard thing to catch hold of them on call? Is it because they owe you some money? Well in that case, how about telling it to the person you are conversing with?
6) THE PERSON IS MORE IMPORTANT THAN THE DEVICE.
I know you know that, how about showing the same. Every time you cut the call when you are talking to someone, you are sending a message as to how important you feel the conversation is. It is not that someone is going to hold it against you, but when it is done as a gesture, the way it is received can make a huge difference indeed!
7) IT IS ABOUT PRIORITIES!
We all live in a technical world of late where machines have become a daily part of our lives and they have made it much easier too. But sometimes we got to know when to shut them down. Sometimes we got to know that a little human contact is more important than the phone ringing. Let it miss a buzz, you can always call back, you might not catch up with this person again, atleast not in the same mood. Do yourself a favour and think a bit when the phone rings. It is just about the message you want to send.
Well in a case you want to end a conversation sooner or send a clear message that you are not interested, well then nothing better than the phone :).. I have done it 😛 😀