Rumor, Gossip : 10 Effective Ways To Deal With The Idiots
It is a horribly annoying feeling being a part of a rumor, especially when people are spreading false messages about you and there doesn’t seem to be a direct way to handle them. And it really sucks when people don;t understand that they are hurting you by creating rumors about you and it is even worse when they keep doing it even when they know that it hurts.
There are of course a few ways you can handle these gossipy mouths and carry on with your life. Here are 10 creative ways to deal with rumor
1) WHY People spread RUMOR?
If someone is spreading a rumor about you, it either means that you don’t have that special bond with them which is completely natural – No everyone can be your friend or maybe they are jealous of you or they are just talking about it because it is a great source of entertainment and they cannot hold it to themselves and it makes them feel important when they spread that rumor and they feel that people are paying attention to them.
Different people have different reasons for spreading a rumor and each one of them is weirder than the other, but the common ones always corner to the want of attention, sometimes from people around them or sometimes from the person who they are spreading rumor about.
Most sites and people tell you to avoid them which is very natural and right as well, but it is equally important for you to be curios and understand why they are doing it in order to tackle the REAL PROBLEM
2) TALK TO THEM
Talk to this person who is spreading the rumor about you. Don’t tell him/her how upset you are, don’t flare on them. You have one opportunity to talk to this person in an open and free manner, make sure you get the best out of it.
Be the bigger person, talk to them, ask them how they heard the rumor, tell them that it is ok and tell them that at a certain level it is indeed funny. But try finding out why they are doing it in the first place.
Remember, it is very easy to shout at someone and even ask them to stop or be angry and fight with them. It takes a slightly bigger person to raise above that. The only reason is that even if you shout at them and make them stop, they will not stop permanently,People will always do what they want to do! and even if they don’t do it in front of you, they might do it behind your back. You don’t want that, you can be slightly clever and nip it in the bud.
Try and understand why they are doing it.
3) TELL THEM YOUR SIDE OF THE STORY
Give them the benefit of the doubt, tell them how it makes you feel when you hear such words. Ask them to put themselves in your situation and feel what you feel, tell them that it is hard to face such untrue facts about you on a regular basis, tell them why you feel that it is unfair and tell them how hard it is making your life.
Most people spread rumors since they don’t know its real impact on your life, it is not that they don’t care about you, it is just that they are not sensitive enough, it is that they do not understand its impact on you. Introduce what it means to you and how it is hurting your life. People can be jerks or asses but they cannot be inhuman, you just need to make them understand YOU
4) TAKE THE LIGHTER SIDE OF IT
Take it in the light side, try thinking of it from a neutral stand point. I do agree that it is very hard and it is also very hard to have that anger boiling in you, but like we said –
There is a greater glory in being a BIGGER MAN than responding to the silly things
5) NEGLECT IT
If none of these ideas work, neglect the rumor, pretend that it doesn’t have any effect on you. Most of them stop making fun of you or making rumors or gossips on you the moment they realize that you don’t even care about it.
In fact you can even go a notch higher and make fun of yourself. This shows how much above the situation you are and people rarely would want to try to bother you there.
6) THE POSITION OF POWER
One thing is for sure, most times the ones people make fun of or spread rumors on are the ones who are most sought after. It might be the prettiest girl in class or the smartest boy in school or an outstanding employee in Office.
So, if people are talking about you, it simply means that you are of prime importance and you are a part of their lives already without even their knowledge.
Feel a little proud that people are actually showing interest in you to spread a rumor. You can actually kinda enjoy it as well.
7) DON’T ASK DON’T TELL
Some of these gossip mongers don’t deserve your time. Know that the people who don’t matter either don’t care about it or they will talk to you about it. The entire gossip world is just making you famous and you just have to find a way to make the best use of it. Like we said, it is just about being a little smart.
And something of key importance is that if you don’t want people to spread a gossip about you, stay away from spreading one about others. Minimize talking negative about others, look at the positives, talk about only them and just neglect the negatives.
People rarely find it encouraging to spread a rumor on someone who is always telling good words about them. They can’t take the risk of missing out on good publicity you see!
8) THREATEN IF NECESSARY
Sometimes if nothing works, then it is the ultimate way ahead. It is unfortunate when people don’t try and understand how they are hurting you even after repeated information about the same. If you are dealing with such horrible jackasses, then the best way ahead is to introduce a little bit of fear.
If it is the school or office, tell them that this directly goes to the dean or the superior in office, tell them that as much as you would hate to do this, it is hurting you in a X,Y,Z manner and tell them that if that doesn’t stop, it will go to the next level which would make things very ugly for both sides
9) SHOW THEM HOW STRONG YOU ARE
Sometimes, the idiots do rally on the weaker ones, they think that it is fun to put someone down just for the sake of a few laughters. Let them know how strong you are, let them know that it doesn’t bother you.
And if it does, stand up to them, talk some sense into them, tell them how deep the consequences can be and how easy it is to spread a rumor in utter disregard about a person’s feelings
10) RESPECT, FEAR AND A COMPLAINT
We are in a world where humanity is the ultimate goal and realization and it has to be that way. If someone is behaving childish, well let them know what a childish prank can lead to and this can be induction of fear or sometimes even a strong complaint!
Either ways, tell them that it is not OK and it cannot go on this way!