Of late I have started following Oprah’s channel OWN on Youtube. Super Soul Sunday, a show featuring short interviews of writers, bloggers, speakers, actors and people from different fields who talks about the values they have added to their lives to make it better.
Here is one such short video of Gretchen Rubin, an author, speaker and a ceaseless blogger. Gretchen shares the 4 secrets of adulthood
4 Secrets of Adulthood,
Secret 1:
People don’t notice your mistake as much as you do
I always thought people noticed my mistakes and I am sure they notice now and they will in future. What I am also confident is of the fact that they do notice but the intensity is much lesser than I assume.
What makes us think that people notice our mistakes? Well… its just that we don’t realize they are busy with their own lives and their own mistakes :)
Secret 2
It’s OK to ask for help
There are 2 sets of people. The ones who don’t need help but they seek out help for everything and the second is the one who needs help but doesn’t muster enough courage to ask.
I wondered what makes the later set of people hard to ask for help. Well, what I am missing out to say is the fact that I too belonged to second group once. Every time I needed help I realized I had to convince my mind to seek it from others. Maybe the fear of not being able to do it myself or maybe the fear of others reaction. Among the two fears, the first one was there in every situation.
Earlier, help seeking was embarrassing, awkward. Now that I have some practice, I have turned into a shameless help seeker (unlike the 1st set of people) :)
Secret 3
Happiness doesn’t always make you feel happy
Gretchen Rubin talks about a man who looked after his ill father, how the man found happiness though he wasn’t happy instantly.
Satisfaction and being true to oneself also carries a deep happiness within. Yet again the intensities, magnitude and frequencies are different but the ultimate destination is the same.
Secret 4
What you do everyday matters more than what you do once in a while.
This secret tops the list for me. This is exactly what my uncle said when I studied rarely in my schooldays :) and that;s exactly how everything else works. This reminds me of a beautiful quote, “Miracles happen everyday!”
To know more about Gretchen Rubin , follow her @ http://www.gretchenrubin.com/
That was Gretchen Rubin’s 4 secrets of Adulthood which is practical. If you have found your secrets already or finding it now or yet to begin to search, whatever the status is, we would love to hear from you. Do share your thoughts below
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Well said Vinay. The fourth secret is truly beneficial for all in the long run.
Great post Vinay! All these points are so true …However, i am still not able to incorporate #2 into my life. I always shy away when i am supposed to ask for help! :/ When will i learn….
Thank you for bringing us his message. All these things are so true and relevant in our lives today :)
Thanks for sharing this. First, second and last are the ones that keep you sane in work. Third keeps us happy, strangely so. Happiness comes from not happiness, but doing what you want to do and what you feel is right.
Agreed..but for the last one, I feel otherwise…
At this point of my life, I can so much relate to “Happiness doesn’t always makes you feel happy”. For many reasons I find that out to be true. But yet on the flipside, I can’t live the life in my own terms. There are so many people involved in our lives, that you can’t help but give their perceptions some priorities.
All the 4 tips are strange, but useful for all celebrating life in its adulthood.
Last one is a bit tricky…I always thought the other way!