7 Tips to Improve Productivity While Studying!

If you are a student, we love you. If you are not, we love you all the same :).

But I think this is something we all can relate to – the difficulty to concentrate while studying!

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7 tips to improve productivity in Studying

I have found it way harder to sit in front of the books to study than doing some live project work or sitting in a lecture or getting involved in a discussion with a team. Books and study demand a lot more concentration; left to ourselves this is something which is not the easiest to achieve. Nevertheless, we try to decipher the 7 tips to improve productivity while studying.

Goal Setting

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We all have heard of this. Set a goal and you know where you are headed. The next step is to plan and then execution – It sounds very cliched doesn’t it? So, we are not going to focus much on that.

The point we try to make here is simply that it is important to set a short term goal for the duration of the study. If you are sitting for an hour or two, set a goal as to what you want to achieve, rather than a long term goal of completing a whole assignment. The more real the goal is, stronger the motivation!

Make sure that this goal is achievable and something you can actually enjoy.

Setting Expectations

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Managing expectations in studying

Now this would be extremely important. You can’t be unreasonable in setting expectations – set something which is clear. Stay away from all ambiguity, keep it simple and specific.

And when you set the goal, please don’t keep it time based. Don’t say “The goal is to study for an hour”. That doesn’t make any sense. Rather, this sort of studying destroys the productivity. You would eventually end of spending an hour or two in front of your study desk without many results to account for. You need to ask that question – what is more important – Time or the outcome.

Combined Study

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Combined study cons and cons

I know this sounds like a fun idea. But if I were you, I would seriously steer away from it. I do understand that studying with a friend is fun. Whenever, I have done this, I have spent more time having fun than actually getting things to work.

Eventually it ends up becoming a complete waste of time and I don’t get too much of useful stuff from it.


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This is one more idea which sounds very exciting. I infact enjoy a little bit of music when I work, but that works only for short spurts of time. It is a great way to get re-enegaged, but I wonder how productive it is going to be for studying if you are looking at long term productivity. Pick a place you are comfortable studying, keep the targets specific and single. Don’t mix too many things or else you will end up enjoying neither of these.


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This is one tip which I found incredibly useful. Initially I used to read as if I was going to complete and remember everything in one go. This would reduce my speed of reading by a significant bit. From the time I came across the 10 simple tips to read faster and better, I figured it is more convenient to actually identify important points in an article or text, mark it and then come back to it.

Segmenting work into different areas increases productivity and also helps the memory to segment stuff better.


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writing in studying

People always claim about the 3Rs of reading – reading, recollecting and revising. I would rather say, skim read, identify and write down the important points somewhere so that you can come back to revise while studying. I do understand that revising is not the most attractive one and we tend to ignore it cos it can easily be done later. But that rarely is the case and we rarely do it effectively.

If the content is not too much, we would strongly recommend a good amount of revision on the go.


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There is a reason why we talk about planning in the end. This is because, we want to focus on how you are going to use this study for the next bit of work you are doing. This is to ensure that you have achieved the goals you set out on and to understand that you are really in a path to make use of your studying effort.

This way, you know where you are going, how it has been useful and it gives a good amount of motivation for the next session.

All said and done, it all finally boils down to the execution. And you will be able to figure out a style which works the best for you. None of the ideas here are prescriptive and like you know, we are always open for a debate. Would love to hear your tricks of study so that we can make this post as useful as possible.

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10 Things You Must Know About A Pessimist

Pessimist thoughts, pessimist ideas, pessimist answers, pessimist meaning, pessimist alersThis post addresses 10 key questions about being a pessimist. Each of these questions are answered separately and can be read completely with the read more button. The read more button is used for better access to the user. We would love to know your thoughts about the post. Without much ado, here are the 10 key parameters.

1) What is the Meaning of Pessimist?

The dictionary clearly defines pessimist as a person who has the tendency to expect the worst in everything. In other words, the brain is so well trained in identifying the [read more=”Read more” less=”Read less”] trouble with any situation that they make expert quality control guys. But the unfortunate part is that they might tend to be perfectionists which might stand in the way of their own success sometimes.

A pessimist is someone who knows that a problem is right around the corner, he/she is someone who is always alert and aware that no matter how good things seem – it is not the complete truth. There must be something wrong somewhere![/read]

2) Is it bad to be a pessimist?

Well! The most generic answer we would get here is YES – It is awful to be a pessimist. But the question is “Bad for whom?”.  The unfortunate truth about a pessimist is that [read more=”Read more” less=”Read less”]  it turns out to be bad for him/her most of the times and the ones closely associated with them. It prevents them from enjoying the finer little things in life and they tend to make the worst of a circumstance provided to them. It might be a way to keep themselves alert. but it certainly keeps them weary of trouble and they become so good at it that they really miss out on “The Essence of happiness” sometimes. So yeah, to an extent it is bad to be a pessimist.[/read]

3) What makes someone a pessimist?

Well, we are sort of sounding that pessimists are villains. They sure are not, they are some really sweet and nice people who perhaps have been brought up in an environment [read more=”Read more” less=”Read less”] which expected too much out of them. They are the ones who have been through some rough experiences when they believed in something. And the natural response somewhere down the line became pessimism just to avoid the pain of being rejected from their hopes. Hence they constantly find something wrong so that they don’t feel so bad when it happens. They are the ones on who face a negative outcome before it actually happens. And unfortunately they are also the ones who suffer the most. [/read]

4) What are the advantages of being a pessimist?

We operate under the belief that nothing in this world is a pure absolute. Pessimists do come with an acute sense of wit which can spot an error which an optimist tends to avoid.[read more=”Read more” less=”Read less”]  Pessimists are the ones you go to when you think that your project or plan has no loop holes. These are the guys who can spot an error which you think is remotely possible. Although it might stand in the way of their action, these guys can be wonderful planners and can give some very important insights about how to take things ahead and be careful at the common tipping points. [/read]

 5) What are the disadvantages of being a pessimist?

The disadvantage is quite simply that they are so overcome by the fear or cloud of these negative outcomes that it prevents them from actually stepping out of their comfort zone.[read more=”Read more” less=”Read less”] There have been some amazing examples of people who have done that. They have understood the power of pessimism and decided to look beyond the traps. They have been smart enough to identify what aspects of it hold them back and what can propel them forward and it has done that exceedingly well for them. Eventually it is all about being a little smart about it. [/read]

6) Are optimists more successful than pessimists?

This I believe is the most important question we might answer in this topic. And the answer is “Clearly No”. Infact an optimist faces more failure than a pessimist does. An optimist is so[read more=”Read more” less=”Read less”] driven by energy that he misses the caution and jumps head on into action. Sometimes it works in his favour if he is able to respond to the feedback from the negative results, but most times it has been a bullish attempt which has rather ended painfully.

On the other hand, the pessimists are right more number of times than an optimist is which gives them a clear victory in the % of successful hits over the unsuccessful attempts. But they tend to overanalyse so much that they end up trying less and the numbers are clearly very small giving a clear edge to the optimists. [/read]

7) What does an optimist feel about a pessimist?

In one word – “Irritated”. Optimists feel that these guys are there just to rain on their parade. They are absolutely restless about the pessimists and wait for an opportunity to call them[read more=”Read more” less=”Read less”] downers or stupid or what not. They think that these pessimists are just out there to prove them wrong and pull them down. They think that their risk appetite is way lower which makes them annoying people to be with. They sometimes feel that their energy is being drawn out of them and prefer to stay away. [/read]

 8) What does a pessimist feel about an optimist?

In one word – “Immature”. Pessimists find optimists – too full of adrenaline who think less and are just too blinded by energy. They think that optimists miss the finer details and most times they actually do.[read more=”Read more” less=”Read less”] They think that these optimists push them way beyond the pessimist’s comfort zone without courtesy as to how hard it is for them. But they also feel that they wish they had the guts of an optimist to go beyond their fear and do something. Not that they appreciate them completely, not that they aspire completely either, but there is a mid way they would like to get to. [/read]

 9) Should a pessimist change into an optimist?

Now, this is an important question based on how you place yourself on the list. If you ask us, it is very hard to find a complete optimist or a pessimist. But it is the consistency of our response to events[read more=”Read more” less=”Read less”]  which perhaps puts us in these brackets. The answer to the question HOW is pretty simple, but we need to figure out WHY first. If you are sure that it is time to change then yes you need to. If you think that it is pulling you down and keeping you away from the things you want to achieve in life then YES, you need to. But if you are able to balance it off, then you need not listen to the dumb so called optimists out there, you are fine the way you are if you are able to derive the maximum happiness out of life without hurting others. But if you decide that it is time to change, then the question 10 is quintessential. [/read]

10) How to change from being a pessimist into an optimist?

The HOW is always easy compared to the WHY! If you have a strong enough motivation, the job is 60% done. The rest is putting your spirits into action. You could do that in many ways [read more=”Read more” less=”Read less”]

  1. Identify your pattern – see how you react to any news, what is the first response you get.
  2. Identify the alternatives – what responses could replace these emotions. For example if the first response is fear, you need to identify whether you can replace it with curiosity – identify what does it mean instead of thinking it is bad news. Think how it could be used to your advantage.
  3. The moment you identify the trouble with anything, find the opportunities as well. Find out the opportunity in each one of them. Almost certainly always there is a silver lining attached which we cannot see immediately.
  4. Don’t respond to an occurrence immediately. There is usually a bigger challenge out there and most things that happen are feedback and symptoms. Instead of thinking the impending doom, think about how you can use this to your advantage.
  5. Find a buddy – tell them how you usually react and how you would like to react. Let them be there to point out till it becomes a natural behaviour for you. [/read]


The above 5 lists are a great start, if you want a detailed review, we would like to recommend this piece – How to be optimistic by Wikihow

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7 practical Tips To Let Go of Past and Regain Control

Let Go of Past:


“You can never run away from your past”

How many times have you heard people say that?

“It is something we all have to live with. We don’t have a choice! 🙁 “

How about this one?

No matter where we are, I am sure we all have something we would like to have changed, maybe it was the way we did things, the words we said to someone or the emotions we went through. Of course, we did talk about 9 simple and effective tips to overcoming guilt which will help you in the process to forgive yourself, this post is more about how we prevent ourselves from slipping into the thoughts of the past. And that is what we meant by letting go of the past to look ahead!

1. Let go of past: What has happened so far

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Let go of past – What has happened so far (Picture – Pixabay.com)

1.1 Let go of past: Accept It!

Whatever has happened, has happened! None of us have access to a time machine. No matter how many times we wish there was a way to change things, we hardly can. I accept that in retrospect, we all can think of ways we could have made things better – so stop beating yourself up for this and thinking of a 100 odd ways you could have solved the problem and accept what has happened and permit yourself to start thinking ahead.

1.2 Let go of past: What does it mean to you?

What does this past event mean to you – what was the incident and what was the situation that prompted a particular action from you?

Try to understand what it means to you now, how it has affected you and whether it is drawing you down or pushing you ahead. If it is pushing you ahead, then it is a wonderful thing to happen. If not, maybe you need to revisit how you think about it. A simple trick can be to identify what you can appreciate about your behaviour at that time? What were you really impressed about yourself?

Please do not say NOTHING – that rarely helps. Most times we are so caught up in the negative effects that we tend to forget some impressive shifts within ourselves.

1.3 Let go of past: What can you do about it?

The utility question quite simply asks you this – what can you do to make things better. We appreciate that most times the answer is nothing in this case, but then we reframe the question – What can we do now to make ourselves feel better?!

The common answers are music, watching movies, playing sports – all of which represent the classic distraction techniques we use to prevent ourselves from feeling the pain. But the pain can be a very powerful motivator at times to take us beyond that emotion.

But apart from that, what can you do to make things better? What actions can you take to find a way to forgive yourself for the past. The answer can be as simple as an apology or writing a letter or

1.4 Let go of past: What holds you back?

We are now moving to the MOST IMPORTANT question about letting go of the past. Most times the past is just an occurrence which logically speaking should not have any direct connection.

But we do live in a world of emotions where LOGIC sometimes takes the secondary place and rightly so.

We are talking about the ramifications of the past here – a past failure holding us back, something which stops us in our current actions and so on. Identify those events which hold you back and the way they are holding you back. It doesn’t matter if it means going back to the good old lists, but do them anyway. Wikihow does a similar version of getting over the past which we think is quite decently done and can as well be used as a reference guide for the same.

2 Let go of past: The way Ahead

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Let go of past – The future ahead, (Picture – Pixabay.com)

We all like to make huge strides of progress in life. It is awful when something holds us back. The question now is how do we identify the ways to move ahead?!

2.1 – Let go of past: It is a new situation

Each time we find ourselves going back to the past, we need to tell ourselves vocally and very clearly that this is a new situation. This is a situation where we have moved on from the past failure, gotten better and captured some new skills.

2.2 – Let go of past: It is an opportunity

Our mind plays tricks on us! It makes us feel so overwhelmed by the failures that it prevents us from looking at things a different way – as an opportunity and a chance for us to get over our previous short comings. It is very rare that we are given a chance to rewrite our history and when we are provided with one such, it would be a shame not to make the best out of it. That way, we also get to rewrite our past story into something which we can like.

2.3 – Let go of past:- Gratitude

None of us would naturally go out and say Thank You! when we have an unpleasant situation to handle. It may sound a bit unconventional, but it really helps to say that. We don’t mean just go out and say Thank you without meaning it – this wouldn’t make any difference at all. The trick is to identify what you are getting out of it, the advantages you are receiving from it which makes you offer your gratitude. This makes you look more at the outcome than the challenge alone.

These were our top practical tips to let go of your past. Do let us know which one you liked the most amongst these and which one you are most likely to disagree with. We would love to take the debate ahead.

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10 Simplistic Ways To Get Out of Your Comfort Zone

Comfort Zone:

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What is the first thing that comes to your mind when you look at the picture?

  • Cozy
  • Blissful
  • Happy
  • Contented
  • Joyous
  • Satisfied

And so many other such beautiful words which make life feel so simple, breezy and easy. Well, that precisely defines what a comfort zone is. If you ask for the definition of a comfort zone, you have pretty much nailed it with this picture – there is nothing more to say about it, it is the zone where we are at our best, where things in our life seem to work our way around and everything is hunky dory and no wonder we fall in love with it. And that is comfort zone for you where you don’t have to worry about too many things, where you don’t have to do anything that pushes you out and makes you go out of your way.

But then there is another definition of comfort or satisfaction which brings out a burning desire for change within, which gets you the feeling that something is amiss – even though things seem to be working alright, you feel that you were capable of so many things and you are somehow limiting yourself and not too happy about it and if I may say – a bit uncomfortable about the comforts in your life. And this is when we are hitting the negative connotation of comfort zone. It is the time we decide to get out of it and turn our life around. But we realise that there is a very strong feeling which keeps pulling us back and a moral conscience which asks you to achieve more and do something more meaningful – Now you have defined the dilemma of every person who wants to have something completely different without doing anything different in approach or the effort he puts in.

I sound a little harsh when I say that don’t I? But I kinda have a hatred towards that cos I feel that I have pulled myself back from the many things I wanted to do just cos it seemed a little hard at the start. With that thought in mind, we decide to come up with this post about the 10 simplistic ways to get out of the comfort zone and start living life at the edge you desire to get the results you really deserve

1.Define yourself!

Really, it all starts with that – define who you are, identify what you have done all your life and what comes naturally to you. Identify all those things which you are naturally good at or the acquired skills which you think set you in a very ‘Easy’ position. And that is your comfort zone! The first step to literally anything is identifying the problem and the next quite naturally is —– Well you got it – DENYING IT!

We all are pretty good at telling ourselves the LIES and these can be the good lies or the bad lies. We define the good lies as the ones which bring you closer to your goals – the ones which say that it is going to get easier from the next moment or an unknown genie is going to come to your help cos help is always available for the ones who are really committed. And these are some really good lies. The bad lies are the ones which make you feel horrible and distract you from your desires – these are the lies which tell you that you absolutely suck, the ones who tell you that you should quit when you have hit the first bump and so on.

So, quit all that and tell yourself what you truly feel. Everyone believes whatever you are going to say. From my experience I understand that people are very kind and forgiving and they usually buy whatever justifiable lie you are telling or atleast they pretend to do so. But they don’t stand to lose much of these lies about the comfort zone, the only person who stands to lose big is you and me, so lets just strip down those levels and come clean to just simply define what our comfort zone is!

2. What holds you back?

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Remember, comfort zone is not all bad – it has some amazing things to offer. It tells you what your strengths are, how capable you are. The comfort zone gives you confidence about your capacities and dreams in life and has really brought you a long way in life. The trick here is to identify the ones which have not pushed you all the way to where you want to be and to identify what in that comfort zone holds us back. Maybe we are lazy, maybe we are needy or maybe we are just focused on our weaknesses than strengths. But almost certainly there is usually something that holds us back. Find that out, dig deep into yourself, ask your friends and family or maybe your enemies too – sometimes they are the best ones to give you some very honest feedback 🙂

3. What Will You Need?

Once you identify the first two – identify what all you need to get out of the comfort zone to achieve the goal you want to achieve. Recognise if it is money, friends or guidance or contacts which will get you to the place where you want to. Understand the props that can make this a success for you. Maybe you need a coach or a loan or someone standing at your back challenging you and pushing you out of your zen zone. Satisfaction is an amazing thing and so is dissatisfaction – identify that person who can push you without discouraging you. It can be a friend or an enemy or this site, we would love to keep a constant tab cos we are equally crazy about the brilliance of our WILLS!

But you have to identify what you need and that is the one great way ahead.

4. Feel Bad about yourself!

I know that everyone tells you to feel good about yourself. Nobody wants you to feel bad and they are always there to tell you that you are great, you are fun and you have all the skills that you need. But truth is that sometimes you really don’t! Sometimes you really are bad at something and you don’t need any lies, you need to feel a little bad – use that pain as motivation and make something meaningful out of it! 

There is no point in telling that there is no smoke when your entire house is on fire. You need to step out of that self-pity and tell yourself that it really sucks to let yourself slip into a bad behavior!

5. Set your standards.

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The problem with the comfort zone and acceptance is that we also step into a zone where we are OK with most things happening in our lives. At some point I realised that I was OK with even getting up at 10 in the morning and putting on 5 more kilos. It was only when I saw the weighing machine I felt disgusted about myself and said to myself that “This is not who I am, I am better than this”. So, set your standards, pull the threshold a little closer. You don’t want to start acting only when the disaster strikes. Maybe you can start earlier, maybe you can write down these standards and tell yourself that you are not going to accept anything less than this and it is unacceptable to treat yourself anything lower than that. And we both know that you are way better, don’t we?

6. Make a promise!

After all the high sounding philosophical stuff, we get into the dire basics as to how you can step out of the comfort zone and we start with a promise. And when we say promise – it is not just about telling it to someone you really love and happily forget about it.

When we say promise, it is about writing in a sheet of paper and framing it where everyone can see. It is about telling the people around you that you are going to do that something or you are not going to do that something and give people the freedom to point it out to you and rub it in your face if you don’t follow through. It is asking them to help you to push you no matter what it takes and get yourself out of your bean bag!

7. Ask yourself this one question.

This was something which personally made a major difference when I was starting something new in my life. In fact it has worked every time I have started something new! It was this one question – “Am I doing anything better?”.

And as you might expect the answer most usually used to be NO and I used to go out to do that slightly uncomfortable thing. Sure it didn’t feel great at first, but that is the beauty of habits, you grow into them and you kinda start enjoying them and unknowingly – Wolla, you have stepped out of the comfort zone

8. Pair Up!

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You will need a partner, a coach or someone who can keep you on a constant note. You might think that I am repeating the point 6 here, but in this case we mean someone who is doing it with you. Someone who is equally or more serious about this and makes sure that you are out there doing it every day. And for me when I started gymming, it used to be my friend who was absolutely regular and the first thing I would see was a message from him saying what time we would go to the gym.

And even on days when I didn’t want to work out, I simply went out there just cos I didn’t want to disappoint him – the power of working together!

9. Recognise your success

One of the most important reasons people fail is that they fail to identify the simple small successes on the way. Success is usually tied to that one big result that we forget to appreciate the small ones. When we are set out on that six pack abs or the size zero structure, we are so fixated on it that we fail to pat ourselves on the back when we say no to the extra double cream, or when we say NO to dessert or mix our fatty food with a good amount of salads. We fail to smile when we see the sweat on our face as we work out, we fail to gleam with pride when someone says we have lost weight and instead say that we have a long way to go.

Thing is, we all have a long way to go and it is tough, we need not make it that hard after all!

10. Have Fun!

As you guessed it, the last point is always about having fun! It is not worth it if you feel lousy about yourself all the way. There is no point in kicking yourself and painfully proceeding to achieve your goals. We might end up doing it, we might end up succeeding it and reaching the destination we planned for ourselves. But at what cost? It is going to be your success story to talk about, you are not going to bring any joy to it when you remember just those hard times. There is a lot of fun in those little moments and you got to make the most of it cos success as a result alone is way shorter than the journey you took to make it happen!

Well, those were our top 10 thoughts in getting out of the comfort zone. Please do share your thoughts and as always we are up for a good debate, or rather we really really love it :).

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9 Simple and Effective Tips To Overcoming Guilt


Guilt is one of the most powerful, strongest and the most difficult emotions to overcome in life. No matter where we are, no matter what we do – there are these small things we would have felt guilty about. We are lucky to have been able to put a few behind us, but there are a few of them which continue to haunt us and sometimes they tend to do so terribly.

Before we start calling it names, guilt is a really good thing, it helps us to stay in the moral code we define for ourselves and to set up standards for our lives. It really hurts us when we slip from it and we wonder what to do about it. The first and foremost thing we try is to of course make amends and make it right. Sometimes we are not so blessed with that opportunity.

In such a case, here are 9 simple and effective tips to overcoming guilt in life.

Overcoming Guilt: Why, What and How?

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Find out the exact reason about what is making you feel guilty. What is the emotion here – is it of regret, is it of something you did or did not do. What aspect of that emotion is this guilt digging up?

Not that we want you to feel bad about things any more, but we really want to know the exact reason for guilt. Sometimes we are so close to things that we tend to take up responsibility for things on which we do not really have any control. It helps to identify the exact reason and no better questions than the Why, what and How?!

Overcoming Guilt: Can you correct it?

After the first question, we look at the utility of it. We know that a mistake has happened, the question next is what to do next, what to do about it. The utilitarian theory talks about finding the solution to a problem and if you don’t find a solution – then what is the point worrying about it?

Theoretically it is all perfect, but we do know it is quite not the same, don’t we? It is not always the easiest thing to let go, especially if there is something you can do about it or at least for sure know that there is really nothing you can do about it.

Although it is very easy to use this as a good reason to escape from responsibility, I think it is a personal call and our personal standards which come to rescue here.

Overcoming Guilt: Apologise Genuinely

game-993498_640It is indeed ‘common sense’ to say you are sorry. Most times it so happens that people say they are sorry, but it is very easy to identify whether they truly mean it or not. It is far more annoying when people don’t mean what they say. Sometimes silence is better than a fake apology. We did talk about 8 ways to make your apology in our previous post which you might find helpful.

Yeah! An apology is not the easiest thing to do sometimes. It is because we have to accept that we were wrong and genuinely feel sorry for it and see if there was a way we could fix it. Sometimes we cannot find the solution, a better thing to do is ask them if there is a way we could make up for it. And more often than not, there usually is a way out :). If not at the first instance, maybe the second – people are usually more forgiving than we think.

Overcoming Guilt: Confess! 

I have heard – Confession is good for the soul. I am not too sure how soulful I am to talk about it, but I do realise that confession makes our heart lighter, it makes us feel responsible and grow beyond the mistake we have done towards the amends we can do towards it. Confession is not something we do as a fix, but sometimes it is a little selfish thing to do because we want liberation from our own internal moral policing which makes us feel wrong and horrible about ourselves.

I agree that it is not very easy to talk to people when you confess – do it any way. I know that it is easy to text about it, but then you will never know that the other person feels when they read it or know about it. Just because it is easy for us doesn’t necessarily mean that it is the right thing nor does it mean that it will liberate us from the feeling of guilt.

Overcoming Guilt: Forgive yourself

i-beg-your-pardon-927749_640It is perhaps an easier thing to get pardon from the society, from the people we love and even the people we hate. They all satisfy the emptiness to a certain extent and so do we to them, but do we feel liberated? Do we feel a weight lifted off our shoulders?

Well, perhaps it takes a little more than that. For us, the guilt is not just because we wronged someone, it is also because we did not live up to our own standards. We have to however understand that it is alright to make some mistakes some times. It is not just about making a mistake, it is how we conduct ourselves after that. It is easy to be lost in beating ourselves up, but that gets us nowhere near the solution of overcoming guilt. The first step has to be forgiveness and forgiveness from self is quite an accomplishment indeed.

Overcoming Guilt: Do something to make the person feel better

Actions always speak louder than words. There are a hundred ways to show your love to someone than just telling that you love them. There are many ways you can show how important a person is for you and what that relationship means to you. It may seem like a cheesy way if you are looking at it as an opportunity to get forgiveness. It is not, it need not be, it is just an opportunity to show how much that person means to you and that is it!

Overcoming Guilt: Realize you are rectifying your mistake.

Acknowledge the fact that you are making an effort to set things right. You might have made a mistake at some point in your life. You are not that person anymore, you have grown from that, you have moved on from that.

Realize that for yourself, identify and acknowledge. There is no better apology than growth.

Overcoming Guilt:Remember there is no perfection- everybody makes mistakes

It is natural to err, it makes you more human and that is the way it is going to be. If you keep feeling bad for every imperfect thing you did in your life, you will keep feeling bad for the rest of your life. Forget the cloak of perfection, Man up to the mistake and figure a way out. Don’t dwell in the negative thought and its pain, no good is going to come out of it.

Overcoming Guilt: Make peace with yourself

dove-41260_640One of the reasons we rate guilt as a tough emotion is the fact that it keeps pushing us away from inside, it keeps resurfacing every now and then. Sometimes we may need to find ways to suppress it, sometimes to work with it and sometimes to appreciate it.

Most  importantly, it is about making peace with your own self, being ok with it, trying to find ways to do the same. For an error is an error and its consequences hurt you as long as you let them. Find a way to deal with it constructively and you have answered yourself the broader question!

These were our top tips to overcoming guilt, we would love to discuss further. Please do let us know your thoughts below.

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