It is always a subjective idea and I am a little drawn into thought when someone asks me to define a few words. For instance, what would you define when I say success? Is it money, cars, buildings, real estate, gratitude, friends, social status….. .and more?
This one definition sort of makes me think sometimes it is easier to define things in a simplistic manner. We all have definitions as to how things should be, how they would be and how they could be. What stops us from getting there?
Cultural tuning- Most of us know what we want to do with our lives, but sometimes we are drawn into the though of what the society things we should. Society has a weird way of defining things and so does the culture framed around it. But looking at the larger picture, who defined the society and culture? Was it not the self in the first place?
Fear – This perhaps is the one show stopper for anyone trying to go beyond and do something new, something to reach out and aim high. The one way we could get over it – well I’d say face it. Sometimes it is an illusion, sometimes a truth and sometimes an emotion asking for action, recognize and respond. The fear doesn’t want you to act and the more you don’t act about it, the bigger it gets, kind of a vicious cycle aint it?
Conviction- How much you believe in the idea and the thoughts. There always will be a set of doubts which would make sure to hold us back from what we want out of our lives.
Challenges – There is nothing called free lunch! Every dream comes with a whole bunch of challenges, roadblocks, but the only thing that matters is what is bigger, the challenge or the dream? Most times it becomes a little important to realize that the challenge is leading you to the dream!
Perfection – This would perhaps be the worst standard to have in life! To start with, I would say the whole definition of perfection is flawed, cos it is something which is never going to get you there. There is no way you can satisfy all clauses at the same time. Reality check – Things are bound to screw up. But that is the beauty of things. Perfection does sound great but somehow finds a way to affect the mental make up. I am not saying one should lower their standards, they should be high but at the same time perfection should never bring someone down!
All said and done, success is a very subjective idea, it probably pays to make a good list of what it means to us and in what priorities. Bottom line, it should never stand in the way of our happiness.
Polishing the train of thought – Books for reference…..
What defines an optimist? Who is a pessimist? And who is a realist?
The larger question I would bank on – how true is the branding? Is it not true at one point of time we have been all of these? What makes one refer to another as a pessimist? Does it mean a pessimist is bad and not someone to be banked on? I would certainly say no, sometimes I realize that pessimists are more right than the optimists cos they know what is holding them back. A blind optimist walks over fire only to realize that it hurts. A pessimist would never try. But the point being not who is right or wrong, it is about action and trying it. I would rather be an optimist trying things and burning fingers cos there is a lesson and it is a realization unlike just an imaginary thought or fear. Everyone is a smart ass when it comes to theory but that is not something which makes a difference!
The question now is few us do realize that there is a trend of a negative thought and the question is how we get out of the pattern?
Identify the pattern, it is not in the big things that happen, it is the small things we do. How we react when things don’t work in our favour, how we react when the prices go up, when the people around stop responding to certain needs, when the economy runs down. Do you look at what all is not working or do you try to see if there is any solution you can work at? Anything that can give you a recluse from the negative train of thought.
Search for the solution – the only thing that can give you solace is action, the result follows an action and an action is sought by the thought. The question is how you manage the thought to get you to an action and the result you deserve and desire
Stop feeling sorry for yourself. Accept that what happened was cos of your actions. There are always signals, nothing comes and hits you in the face, there are always patterns which we conveniently decide to avoid, stop and think, nothing comes undeserved. Take responsibility and take action; that is the only time you can make a difference.
Thank the situation. No better solution than gratitude, the moment you thank for what is happening in your life and thank it from the bottom of your heart. That is the time when you start looking at a solution rather than feeling sorry for yourself. Thank the situation for the opportunity it presents, you may not see the opportunity right away, you may see it as a huge road block. Thank it! It makes you stronger, it makes you look at the solution than the problem, cos trust me action is usually in the direction of focus. If you focus on the problem, your mind will find ways to wallow in it. Focus on the solution and act on it, you will find ways to be where you want to be.
Stop looking at your fears, some are tangible and some are not, face them both.. They will take you to a logical solution, many a time things are perceived than they really are. But the reality doesn’t change, whether you act on the fear or not, the situation remains the same, better act on it, it brings something fascinating out of you, a solution, an opportunity to be better and stronger, and a chance to get back on track.
Pessimism is a choice, and so is optimism! It is always a conscious decision between the two and so is the self proclaimed realism. I would say, forget all the definitions, they kill you; the only way to live is spreading yourself beyond the limitations of thought descriptions. You gotta liberate yourself cos it is not only freedom we are talking about; it is living life on a bigger scale!
Like we say, if a solution is your choice you have already overcome the definition of pessimism!
I love this quote, simple, elegant and extremely effective and has intonations in so many different levels.
Of course things get messy, they get out of hand and out of control. No matter how much we think we can bring things in line with our thought, sometimes the truth is that it goes beyond that. The question is what we do about it? Do we choose to put our hands over our head and lament or do we get up and start making it right?
The beauty of things is that there is no one right thing, there are always multiple ways to arrive at the right result. It maybe straight forward sometimes or sometimes even very round about but the truth and the beauty is that there is always a solution if we decide to find it.
No matter how messy things can get, they can always be resolved, think of Y2K and how we have gone past it, think of Japan and the nuclear bombs and look at it today, think of Dalai Lama and the Tibet situation…..Fact is-there always is a way out, its a question of outlook!
So many times it is so easy to give up and wallow in self pity saying that there is nothing much we can do about it, but the bigger thing to do is take up a responsibility and live up to it. Live up to the thoughts and the various dimensions, accept the whole responsibility and a solution is not the toughest result to reach, it is always the outlook.
Belief is a very powerful emotion, every time something beats us down and keeps us on our knees, it is the belief that can get us up and clear things out. For there always is a solution or a set of rationalizations, again the choice is solely upon us!
Bottom line, no matter how bad things seem, how bad they look and feel, the solutions are not the hardest ones to find. An adequate focus and a deliberate decision can go a long way than a mere thought and an easier self pity! Few thoughts to endorse the ideas….
Well we’ve always been told that the thoughts are divine. Of course they are, I sure agree to the thought. But are they the only things that matter?
We sure think of a lot of things, if all the thoughts would matter, it would be a perfect pandemonium with so much to process and come to a conclusion with. But are they the only things that matter. Isn’t it what we do about it which matters?
Many a time I have seen people suffering around. It moves me, makes me feel I must do something to bring it to an end. But shamefully enough, that has been the extent of my thoughts. I haven’t pushed myself much to make it happen. The thought makes me feel better, gives me a gratification that I am a good man. But am I? If thought alone would matter, I would most certainly be.
Knowledge is a beautiful thing. Even more beautiful is action! Thoughts make a difference internally but what we do about the thoughts is what makes the actual difference. It is never the thought alone, it is action that makes the difference.
Agreed that neither has an independent existence, the thought leads to action providing a causal effect. But action is something which brings it all into balance. Mere thought alone never suffices.
Or like Rene Descartes says, we all have a beautiful mind, the question is how much we use it?!
Elegant! Don’t you think? The quote establishes a message in so many levels. For us, the greatest thought it inspires is the belief in belief!
Isn’t it true? Don’t you believe a placebo effect can cure someone? Is it mind over matter or matter over mind? If your thought is strong enough, are you not capable enough to take care of it?
Agreed that I would take a medicine continually without the belief that it can cure me, what is the set of emotions mind goes through? I am not going to search for the validity and the statistical analysis of the quote, but I would certainly ask one question – which thought helps? Is it the optimism which brings in the fighting spirit or pessimism which kills you every moment from within?
How would you explain the psychosomatic occurrences? If the mind can play a role and create a disease, I am sure it can work the other way and cure.
Many a time, the value of belief is highly underrated and made to seem as the last option. Most times, it has been ridiculed as a witchcraft, but isn’t it the thought which is the seed of all solution?
Success or failure are mere words, but the belief is something which will take you all the way there. Like it is rightly said – “Whether you think you can or you think you can’t – You’re right!
Well it sure sounds like a lot of optimism and the question is why believe in the set of beliefs, let me ask something, which belief helps you? I am not asking you to stop taking medicines, I am just saying, the medicine might find it easier to work in an environment of appreciation and acknowledgement than of total disregard and doubt. I am not necessarily talking about health and medicine, it can very directly link to the way we treat people and most importantly ourselves so many times..