No no not at all Moon Roy, I am always open for debate and I kinda enjoy an intelligent one. There is a great brainstorming of thoughts and it usually comes with something interesting.

I agree, looks are very much deceiving, we never really get to know what is really happening in someone;s mind no matter how closely we know them. I agree, it is very difficult to draw in a generalization about the behaviour. I guess that is perhaps the beauty of human behavior, there is never a standard answer. But maybe sometimes I guess it is easier to look beyond that scope of generalization and look for a greater truth and breadth applicable out there..

I do support your thought, I do agree that some men are bad but not all of them are same.

Hi Vinay, please don’t take me wrong. I said appearance doesn’t say everything about a ‘person’. It is equally applicable to man and woman. Just like an apparently ‘humble looking’ man can be “creepy’ when he gets a chance to exploit a woman, an apparently “pretty” woman’s behaviour may not be pretty always. In your case, may be the man is actually an innocent man and may be the girl is rude by nature…who knows.

My point is, just like “some annoying cases of men acting weird with women, some creepy too” does not mean all men are bad, one or two incidents of women being rude to polite men can not be the parameter to decide that women in general think that “all men are bad” and treat them in the same manner.

About your question – “wasn’t that also deciding upon appearance?” I think you’ve already given a hint in your post when you wrote – “…if at all she has experienced an uncomfortable situation in the past.” “Or maybe she was just scared and reacted accordingly.”

Thank you Moon Roy. I agree, I can never fathom the depth of experiences that a woman goes through. I have found it very hard to even imagine the plight of a situation like that but I realize I am too far from empathizing that and I only can sympathize.

I agree that appearance doesn’t say everything about that man and I also reiterate the fact that he shouldn’t have been pushed away, atleast not that rude. I mean, I didn’t see much of a right in that girl saying NO in such a tone to that man. It was a different thing if it would have been polite but this was a little embarrassing. I also agree that there was no way she could have told that this was not a creepy man but to judge that he was – wasn’t that also deciding upon appearance?

As for the east west bit, I think a lot of them had come up with ideas as to why west is way better, but I just wanted to say that it is people in the end. It is not about an Indian or a Non indian, it is about a human being in the end..

I think if I were in his place, maybe I would have spoken to the conductor or if she was that insistent I would have politely asked her to take the last seat if she was that concerned. Poor girl might have been going through a lot of things, but that man went through a lot more because of that outburst and I really found it very unfair that she had to shout at him..

Thank you Maniparna. I have a tough time with both wings – some feminists and some fundamnetalists like the UP police thoughts on rape. I don’t understand the idea of extremism on it and trying to label what is happening around us. I mean it is just people in the end – good and bad. It doesn’t matter whether it is a male or female cos the issues faced by both of them are very different and very individual.

I would love to see that article from you Maniparna. Please do share a link here when you do, I am sure our readers will love your view point :)

:) Pleasure is all mine Maniparna

Thank you Shweta :). I agree, I do sympathize to the unfair treatment women that has been meted out from generations together and I do understand that it is a very debatable topic. I have often found it very difficult to understand to look at a real solution for all these. There have been people who have been staunch followers hailing the west and I guess this video is an answer for most of them. As for the issues faced by women, somehow this issue has registered in my mind. I do agree that everyone has to be vocal about their rights but at the same time I really felt bad for that poor man who had to go through that embarrassment. None of this will ever be a compensation for what has happened to women.

But what is a compensation for what happened to that man?! I honestly do not have an answer to that..

And if you want to highlight the fact that media is exaggerating and projecting as all Indian men are creepy let me tell you women (both Indian and foreigners) are intelligent enough to understand that all Indian men cannot be “creepy”, it’s simply not possible in a society.