Happy to hear that mate and happy to be here for you. Wishing you the very best Rohit and please do feel free to buzz in whenever you need us :)

:).. I can certainly understand that mate. Being in a similar state about 4-5 years ago, I do know how it feels to be at this stage. But I can promise you one thing that it is going to get better.
I had a similar dilemma when I got those results. A couple of decisions helped
1) After 2 years of preparation and 2 interviews straight I decided that UPSC doesn’t really deserve a full time focus and I could give that time while working too.
2) All of my friends were in great jobs and to be honest they still are. I come to realize that upsc is a little overrated sometimes. I pushed myself to believe that it is just another job and I would treat it as that. It helped me look at my situation a little better and think what I would have done if I were fired from the earlier job.

At this stage, it might seem very irritating to be on the sidelines. But trust me, they are not doing any better. A lot of them are still trying to figure out what they want in life. Atleast you have that figured out.

I am sure you are more capable than you think. There are a lot of freelance opportunities out there which can help you sustain yourself a bit. That will help the peer pressure front. For a while forget all your friends and look at your life in comparison with what you want to do and how close you are to it. If you look at others you are bound to be disappointed. Infact even now I feel a little disappointed if I see my friends earning more than me. That happens and it happens to everyone. There will always be someone we will be jealous and insecure about.

But beyond that, I think we also need to realize that the full picture includes different aspects as well and when you look at that, life seems a lil more peaceful. My only suggestion would be to get busy, get incredibly busy. Dont allow too much time for these thoughts. Sleep over them and you will have a solution soon. Dont let that be the only thing on your mind in and out. You will find a solution

Hi Rohit, thank you for sharing the story here. I understand the situation mate. It was incredibly hard to get out of that phase. It took a long time and a lot of annoying experiences and people to get here and there is a long way to go. There’s something incredible which the so called failure offers us and somehow we all have to find ways to tap into our energy and get back on life. And life really is a beautiful thing. I might be able to see this only when I look back but when I was in that phase it sure was hell.

I can understand how hard it gets my friend. Do let me know if there’s anything we can write about or anything that would help at all. Happy to help :)

Thank you Sandy :). True that, the best part is trying to do the odd things which success keeps us away from. Elizabeth Gilbert, The Author of Eat Pray Love talks on similar lines as to how her phenomenal success from Eat Pray and love kept her away from trying any further.

You can find the video here

https://inspire99.com/how-do-you-get-up-from-a-success/

Have started working on it Priyanka, hopefully it should be out soon :) .. If you have any other favourite quotes you would like to share, I would be more than elated to write about them :)

:) Thank you Bhavani

I like the reinterpretation of the word Failure Nona, esp the second definition :) .. It is damn hard but I guess it is the most refreshing thing we can do! And the second type like you said is why failure makes you so strong and why it means so much as well in our lives :)