True Maria, it is never easy to build that core circle cos there is a whole variety of people out there and each one is looking for his own quest in life and his own support system. There is no way we can fit for all of them and there is no way they are all going to fit for us. But maybe there is a balance somewhere and we can be mutually helpful. Having said that, I believe that there are two circles of people – the inner and the outer circle. The inner circle is of people who really mean a lot to us and vice versa. This is the circle which is built upon trust and over time where they have proved themselves to us and vice versa. It is with time that we build this circle and this circle keeps getting stronger and this is the most precious one.

Having said this, we can’t underestimate the importance of due diligence. Cos it is our personal lives and we can’t let anything bother that or even try to set that out of balance. It has to be of primary importance.

True Rakesh, variety sure is the spice of life :). You are spot on when you say everyone is imperfect and I would go on to add and say – Me first! :) . True mate, when the chips are down and when we really need, help is out there and the real people, the ones who truly care never really vanish from our lives just like that. They will be there looking over us, helping us to bring balance to our lives.

Yeah there are several instances… but I think we all lack basic human values… and there is a big disconnect…and thats the building blocks of any human being more than charm and money…you talked about marriage somewhere and we all know that the biggest fear anyway has is about the person you won’t know very well… and right now in our society we got so much going on different people, work, parties lots to explore and its not possible to be right all the time… I can only say that everyone needs to be strong and intolerant of such people… also be nice to nice people, we should definitely not shun anybody if they are not bad at heart and have some defects… well… think building a network of really trust worthy people is one’s strenght, one should be open to that… and generally if one is good he attracts good anyway goodday. There are ways to indentify really rotten people – body language, speech, they can’t be perfect all the time… eye contact, expressions… and anything suspicious if they offer to take you around lonely place too soon, or give excuses to avoid knowing them more properly etc , there must be signs… and knowing then intially also means checking out how they behave etc with others, there wll be small small instances… one has got to be smart… I am sure they will show signs of rotteness somewhere…anyway just hunches… you don’t trust anybody dearly without knowing them…sometimes your heart is right, but don’t be blind(: anyway… you must be knowing many tips… and you can cleverly test and asess someone(:

Thank you Maria. Thanks for sharing these experiences. It is really sad that the very core of trust is being breached in these instances. Sometimes it makes me wonder if it is that easy to fake and create trust of someone else?! I mean there are people with whom we open up and sometimes we do read them wrong too, like the instances you mentioned above. It is never an easy thing to know whom to trust or not. Trust does come from a longer association with people and in these two cases, even the longer associations seem quite baffling. Maybe we need to come up with an elaborate screening system to get such people off our lives or maybe we need to be on guard.

Thank you for these thoughts, I really like the healthy conversations like these which make us reflect on the real experiences and how we can implement the same in our lives.

He he :).. Thank you Najm. It is always very refreshing to see your thoughts on my posts, I kinda look forward to them :). I somehow missed out on that movie. Sounds like my kind of a movie, will try to get a copy of it.

I am currently swept by the craze of game of thrones.. Completely captivated by that :D :)

Thank you Ajai :).. True that! I guess we can never escape the bad in life no matter how much we would like to or no matter how simple our lives would have been without that. Maybe the intelligence is in accepting things the way they are and making our decisions count..