Indian Men Are Creepy With Women
Much has been said about Indian men being creepy. The image is as though that any Indian man you come across will stare at you, tease you, and even abuse you. Bottom line, the image is pretty simple, if you are a woman, stay away from an Indian male as much as possible, you can steer clear of a lot of negative comments about you.
Not all Men are good. Not at all
I am not going to argue saying that all men are good and they should be treated with ultimate respect, nor am I going to say that women should not be careful about men. I remember an incident when I was in a bus and there were just two seats. I was sitting behind this young girl somewhere in her mid 20’s and another man boards the bus. He finds that there are only 2 seats – one next to the girl and the other in the last row. And if you have travelled in the last seat of a bus, it is never an enjoyable experience, esp when you are thinking of a journey of 3 Hrs. So this man politely comes up to the girl, requests her and asks permission whether he could sit next to her.
But Not all men are bad… Not at all
The girl snaps and him and says NO and not just that she starts a lecture on why men would want to sit next to a pretty girl. I am not sure what others felt but I was thinking if I was discovering the pretty side or the petty side. And this man was a very simple one, kinda a simpleton who meekly agreed and went back to the back of the bus only to suffer the journey for another two hours. And I wondered what was fair and what was not.
I do sympathize at the plight of the girls
At one end, I want to sympathize with the girl and her plight if at all she has experienced an uncomfortable situation in the past. Or maybe she has heard some creepy stories about creepy men who sit next to you to try and take advantage of you. Or maybe she was just scared and reacted accordingly. But honestly this man looked nothing close to scary, if anything I felt that he was a poor chap trying to find a good seat.
But is every man bad?
And then I wonder why all of these happen? I agree that there have been some annoying cases of men acting weird with women, some creepy too. But how fair is it to treat them all in the same manner? How fair is it to treat every man you come across as a stalker or a person who is hitting on you. Trust me, even guys have a lot of other things to do than hitting on every girl who they come across.
And the media…
Added to this, the media has been excellent in publishing a one sided view of all the so called shallow minded Indians. And to top this, there have been people who have made elaborate debates with me saying how good it is in the west and why they should stay away from India. For such people, I finally have an answer. This is the plight of a young woman in a day in New York, a day by walk.
How do the Indian males compare to this?
So… My only request is that, I understand and agree that women have to go through a lot, but that doesn’t mean all Indian men are creepy. Just cos a few people are bad, it doesn’t mean that the entire humanity is. We got to trust in something and to just single out Indian men as creepy is just too unfair!
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