The Single Greatest weapon against Stress!
“The greatest weapon against stress is our ability to choose one thought over another.”
– William Jamera
As we write this, I recall a couple of our popular post – 9 Creative Ways For A Stress Free Life and a beautiful quote which said –
“The hammer that shatters glass also forges steel. The hammer is the same, the question is whether we are made up of glass or steel”
I think it is a very tricky affair to write about motivation. Somewhere unknowingly we get sucked into the brand of preaching even though we try to rationalize that we are not. Over the last few posts, I notice that it is time that we play our role here. As I reiterate again, we are not here to magically inspire or motivate you. But there is one thing we are really good at – asking questions and we shall try and stick to that. The moment you feel that we are moving away from that, please do let us know cos end of the day, we want these posts to be useful and not just another one written for the sake of it.
Stress Brings Out Character! – The greatest weapon against stress!
Now, as we begin to question, I would love to stick to the reference that stress brings out character, it brings out who we really are and our capacities. It all looks great in the hindsight and it also looks like a great moral to live by – constantly telling ourselves that we are building character. But we also know that at times it does get exhausting no matter how many times we tell ourselves that we are building character. We get tired and the quotes start seeming a little meaningless as well.
Stress Has A Way Of Screwing Us Up
Stress sure has a way of affecting us and it certainly screws up the thought process we are under. Ever notice the times that you are depressed – you start focusing on all the things that are bad in your life. The moment you have a fight with your significant other, you start thinking of all the bad things that they have done in the past and you slowly start hating them a bit? Ever noticed that when you are feeling low or bad, how easy it is for the others around you or the other things around you to piss you off to the extent of your nerves?
It Is The Same You Isn’t It – The greatest weapon against stress!
But very interestingly, matters of graver intensity don’t seem to affect you at all when you are at your best state of mind. What changed? It is the same you isn’t it? It is the same you who handles things magically well and it is the same you who screws up even the best things you have in life. Does it mean that you and I are simply the puppets of time and the state of our mind? Isn’t the concept of self improvement or self development that we control our thoughts and not the vice versa? Or isn’t it at least that we control the quality of our thoughts and hence the quality of our lives?
Choosing One Thought Over Another
I guess, the answer for this is in William Jamera who says that the greatest weapon against stress is the ability to choose one thought over another. Let us for instance assume that we have that super power. When we are low, instead of thinking of the bad things around us – replace it with curiosity. What are the questions you will ask?
- I am guessing, instead of asking “Why me?”, you might ask – what else can this mean? What is the message it is sending me? What is the purpose and use of this?
- Instead of telling – This is pulling me down and it always happens to me. Why not question – Is there a pattern here. If so, what can I do to break this pattern?
- Instead of saying – The Universe is out there to screw me over. What if we ask, what can I do to screw it back?
I think there are a lot of interesting questions we can ask and various creative ways we can choose our thoughts over the other. Stress comes because of various reasons and we dealt with them all in our 9 Creative ways of dealing with tension. There are tonnes of stuff that keep happening around us. This is real life and these are real experiences which we feel every single day in our lives. And the more we look toward improving the quality of those, the better control we have over the quality of our life long term as well. As we recall,
Life is not just one big achievement we sign off the list, it is a whole set of beautiful things which we feel and face every single day!
Do join us for more such updates,