Why is it so damn hard to change?!?


I believe change is something which has brought all of us at the crossroads many a number of times in our lives. One of the most appropriate books written on Change is “Who Moved My Cheese” by Spencer Johnson. I think the concept is beautifully woven in the form of a story. The story is about mice and the change is when someone moved the cheese from its earlier location.

Now the mice had two options, one was to stay and wait and the other was to hunt and search? Does this sound familiar? I sure would say yes to this, many a time I have wondered whether it is a call to move on or to stay but I guess the signals are always strong..

Why is it so hard to change?

  • “I like it here. It’s comfortable, it’s what I know. Besides it’s dangerous out there” (A new thing of course is scary, but are we gonna let that stop us?)
  • We should sit here and see what happens, maybe someone will help us out and bring things in order i.e someone would bring the cheese back (Which we know hardly happens; the only person who can solve anything related to self can seldom be someone else!)
  • “Holding on to the illusion of Old Cheese that was no longer there.” (A state of denial, not willing to accept, we know where that leads!)
  • “What lay ahead? Was it empty? Or worse, were there dangers lurking?” (An unknown is scary, agreed but the known is not helping much either!)

Why should we change?

  • “If you do not change, you may become extinct! “, i.e. no cheese anymore!
  • Things change and they are never the same again. This looks like one, of those times. That’s life! Life moves on. And so should we…
  • “He knew he needed to adapt faster, for if you do not adapt in time, you might as well not adapt at all.”
  • “You can believe that a change will harm you and resist it. Or you can believe that finding New Cheese will help you to embrace the change.”

How do you feel when you start the change?

  • “Why do I feel so good?” he wondered. “I don’t have any Cheese and I don’t know where I am going.””
  • “He was happy when he wasn’t being run by his fear. He liked what he was doing now.”
  • “When You Move Beyond Your Fear, You Feel Free.”
  • “The quicker You Let Go Of Old Cheese, The Sooner You Find New Cheese.”

And what are the learnings?

  • “Realized that he had started to change as soon as he had learned to laugh at himself and at what he had been doing wrong. He realized the fastest way to change is to laugh at your own folly – then you can let go and quickly move on.”
  • “Biggest inhibitor to change lies within yourself, and that nothing gets better until you change.”
  • “That what you are afraid of is never as bad as what you imagine. The fear you let build up in your mind is worse than the situation that actually exists.

““Hooray for Change!””

I think it is a beautiful way the entire story follows, nowhere is there any preaching but it is all about stopping to think, relate and realize that there is so much more we can do and the only shift needed is a small change to the way we look at things!

Bottom line, all I wanted to say was that change is an amazing thing and its equally a great feeling to acknowledge , fight and embrace it. No wonder it is the single most constant thing in the world 🙂

9 Responses to "Why is it so damn hard to change?!?"

    1. Very rightly stated Easwar. I think the faster we are to accept that it is time to change, the faster we move to create one and make a difference. I guess the whole point comes to the moment of action and the faster we hit that, the faster we get to solving most challenges 🙂

      Thank you for sharing the viewpoint Easwar, look forward to sharing more 🙂



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