Quote Of The Day: Any Fool Can Condemn, Criticize And Complain – Dale Carnegie

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Quote Of The Day:

condemn criticize and complain, criticism, people who criticize, why people criticize, people who complain, “Any fool can condemn, criticize and complain – and most fools do. But it takes character and self-control to be understanding and forgiving”Β 

– Dale Carnegie

Morning folks and here is our quote of the day from Dale Carnegie. The man who reached the pinnacle of his fame through his “How To Win Friends And Influence People” and perhaps one of the best men to talk about people, communication skills and management.

We have alll faced this haven’t we. No matter what we do, who we are and where we are, there are atleast a 100 people who are right behind is criticizing and complaining about every little thing in life which makes you wonder, “Gee, what is really wrong with them?”. Well that’s only the tip of the iceberg isn’t it?

Why people criticize?

  • What is the reason for people to criticize others?
  • Is it because they want you to succeed?
  • Is it because they expect nothing short of perfection in life?
  • Are they jealous of you, cos you have achieved something they have not?

And so on. There can be plenty reasons for people who criticize and complain which I have never understood. Not that I don’t criticize and condemn people, we all do that either knowingly or inadvertently. Perhaps a common reason why we criticize is when we try to understand the lives of others through our own experiences. A couple of days ago we wrote a post – “You can’t judge people because they sin differently than you”Β .Β I mean we all know that it is wrong to judge people cos we really don’t know what is happening in their life.

Doesn’t the same hold true for criticism as well? Yesterday I saw that AAP was holding a protest and I was naturally curious as to why they were doing it. I was quite shocked to see that their rally was a protest for ‘ Completion of 1 year of Modi Govt’ or atleast that is what the news channels said! It really makes me question – where are we headed as a culture? What is the pleasure in finding fault with someone when we have enough and more on our plate.

Another very common example I come across is with these toppers. Somewhere, somehow in our culture or education or the environment we have been taught to expect perfection out of our heroes. A few days ago, I saw someone ask a question on Quora – “Should I respect Mahatma Gandhi Or Not?, Was He perfect”. I mean I don’t really understand the obsession with perfection! How can one expect perfection out of someone else? How perfect are we to do that? And what gives us the right? And why should someone else be perfect? Just because we need a hero?

If that is the case, doesn’t it actually defeat the purpose of having an idol or a role model – A person we can relate to aspire to be? Instead of being judgemental and critical, can we be a little more sensitive and sensible and look at things the way they are and probably try to appreciate life as it is, a life which is true and real – not a life which is made up and not a life where we expect things to be the exact same way our imagination is.

I mean there is a lot of beauty in curiosity and understanding people and the real troubles they go through in life.It is really easy to criticize and condemn and complain and do a lot of other things as well. Truth is no one really cares for a person who is constantly complaining or criticizing. No one wants to be with a negative person who drains all the energy from within. My only answer to the people who constantly criticize is this “If you want to help, then help, if not then please Shut UP! I don’t really have time and energy to deal with a blabber mouth

We all are normal people and we want an extraordinary life. We aspire to that and we are headed there in our own ways. We can’t let others get to us or criticize us and at the same time we can’t afford the luxury of criticizing others as well. Life is a beautiful thing, we need not ruin it with these petty immoral morals. The goal is to become better each day, and more tolerant cos that is not just a virtue but a sign of true maturity.

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18 thoughts on “Quote Of The Day: Any Fool Can Condemn, Criticize And Complain – Dale Carnegie

  1. Some criticizes cuz they are upset from their own lives, this is what I have learnt from Vipassana meditation center. So the case is whoever feels whatever inside… shows outside which points to others but not on self. And forgiving such characters needs a strong… VERY strong heart. Because you know, you don’t want to mess up your day arguing or explaining things to such people. So listen and then… don’t get bothered. At least this is what I do πŸ™‚

    1. That’s actually a very nice perspective Tara, people reflect the internal thoughts through the external responses. I have been meaning to attend Vipasana meditation from a long time but I haven’t been able to yet. Sounds like a very enriching course.
      True indeed, the true strength of character I believe is tolerance. It is very hard to accept things the way they are and sometimes not to do anything about it not cos we don’t want to but because we know that our presence will not be of any great value add sometimes. An unperturbed mind is a hard trait to achieve and a very noble goal too. πŸ™‚

  2. Some people are incorrigible. They will eventually criticize …just everything under the sun. They have great skills at nitpicking πŸ˜€ I feel pity for them and ignore them wholeheartedly.

    1. He he completely agree to that Maniparna. Some people are simply incorrigible and they derive pleasure from putting others down. Maybe it is their source of confidence. Pity is a much better way to handle them than getting pissed off. I usually get really pissed off πŸ˜€ πŸ˜€

  3. Very well said Vinay. These are the three Cs that everybody should remember. The more of it they use, the more they isolate from relationships for nobody wants a negative person 24/7 around them.

    1. Thank you Fayaz :). Indeed, these are the three demons to steer clear from in a conversation or communication. If we use any of that, it is serious downhill from there and it is not very easy to recover from there..

    1. Thanks Ravish. Indeed, I think the blame game has gone on forever in history and also the current day affairs and not to exclude our lives as well. They never cease to end and I guess it has to be a conscious decision to steer clear of those and take charge of our very own lives.

  4. I agree Vinay. Don’t have the time or energy to deal with those to always manage to find some or the other reason to criticize. My dislike such people with the habit to criticise had led meto write a similar post on Why People Criticize Others. I have company now. πŸ™‚
    Btw why do I need to key in my credentials each time for posing a comment nowadays? Sometime to do with settings.

    1. Thank you Somali. Indeed, such people are a drain on our energy level sand also the quality of our lives. Unknowingly we stoop down on our levels when we spend a lot of emotions on these people who really don’t deserve it. He he he, I will always be there to support you on this :D.
      I had a bit of an issue with the disqus commenting system, it was truncating right after the post and not allowing subsequent visitors to comment. So I was kinda forced to remove that. I am trying to work that out and in the meanwhile using this as a makeshift arrangement.
      Sorry for the inconvenience, even I am not a big fan of this one. Entering the credentials each time is a pain and I really appreciate it.

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