Quote Of The Day:
“Any fool can condemn, criticize and complain – and most fools do. But it takes character and self-control to be understanding and forgiving”
– Dale Carnegie
Morning folks and here is our quote of the day from Dale Carnegie. The man who reached the pinnacle of his fame through his “How To Win Friends And Influence People” and perhaps one of the best men to talk about people, communication skills and management.
We have alll faced this haven’t we. No matter what we do, who we are and where we are, there are atleast a 100 people who are right behind is criticizing and complaining about every little thing in life which makes you wonder, “Gee, what is really wrong with them?”. Well that’s only the tip of the iceberg isn’t it?
Why people criticize?
- What is the reason for people to criticize others?
- Is it because they want you to succeed?
- Is it because they expect nothing short of perfection in life?
- Are they jealous of you, cos you have achieved something they have not?
And so on. There can be plenty reasons for people who criticize and complain which I have never understood. Not that I don’t criticize and condemn people, we all do that either knowingly or inadvertently. Perhaps a common reason why we criticize is when we try to understand the lives of others through our own experiences. A couple of days ago we wrote a post – “You can’t judge people because they sin differently than you” . I mean we all know that it is wrong to judge people cos we really don’t know what is happening in their life.
Doesn’t the same hold true for criticism as well? Yesterday I saw that AAP was holding a protest and I was naturally curious as to why they were doing it. I was quite shocked to see that their rally was a protest for ‘ Completion of 1 year of Modi Govt’ or atleast that is what the news channels said! It really makes me question – where are we headed as a culture? What is the pleasure in finding fault with someone when we have enough and more on our plate.
Another very common example I come across is with these toppers. Somewhere, somehow in our culture or education or the environment we have been taught to expect perfection out of our heroes. A few days ago, I saw someone ask a question on Quora – “Should I respect Mahatma Gandhi Or Not?, Was He perfect”. I mean I don’t really understand the obsession with perfection! How can one expect perfection out of someone else? How perfect are we to do that? And what gives us the right? And why should someone else be perfect? Just because we need a hero?
If that is the case, doesn’t it actually defeat the purpose of having an idol or a role model – A person we can relate to aspire to be? Instead of being judgemental and critical, can we be a little more sensitive and sensible and look at things the way they are and probably try to appreciate life as it is, a life which is true and real – not a life which is made up and not a life where we expect things to be the exact same way our imagination is.
I mean there is a lot of beauty in curiosity and understanding people and the real troubles they go through in life.It is really easy to criticize and condemn and complain and do a lot of other things as well. Truth is no one really cares for a person who is constantly complaining or criticizing. No one wants to be with a negative person who drains all the energy from within. My only answer to the people who constantly criticize is this “If you want to help, then help, if not then please Shut UP! I don’t really have time and energy to deal with a blabber mouth“
We all are normal people and we want an extraordinary life. We aspire to that and we are headed there in our own ways. We can’t let others get to us or criticize us and at the same time we can’t afford the luxury of criticizing others as well. Life is a beautiful thing, we need not ruin it with these petty immoral morals. The goal is to become better each day, and more tolerant cos that is not just a virtue but a sign of true maturity.
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