Judge A Man!
We have ever professed that the questions hold the key to our lives, the questions decide how we are going to think, what we are going to do about it and it is these questions which determine the emotional quality of our lives. And to support this, we have voltaire’s inspirational quote to the rescue:
“Judge a man by his questions rather than by his answers.”
It sounds like an elegant quote doesn’t it? Let us try and explore the intricacies the quote might address. I think it seems very simplistic from the outside – ask the right questions and you have the right way of life – simple isn’t it? But why does it have to be about the questions? All along our life, we have been culturally taught that the smart ones know the answers and they are the ones to be looked up to. And out comes Voltaire talking about a quote which says questions are more important than the answers. In other words, a smart one doesn’t need to feel that important at all. A know it all doesn’t seem to feel that important at all.
Judge a Man – An alternative approach?
Maybe we can approach this with an instance. We all know have big challenges in our lives and sometimes we do fall right on our face. The next instance, we feel bad about it, it feels like life sucks and somehow it seems that this kind of thing always happens to us. And we are out there rushing to find the solutions. Instead, can we just stop for a minute and ask ourselves
- What is the meaning of this?
- What else could this mean?
- How can I use this situation?
- Do I need to alter my strategy?
- Do I need to live for a higher standard?
Instead of asking
- Why does this always happen to me?
- Does it mean that I should give up this goal?
- I am not smart enough to make this happen
- I am not cut out for this, maybe I should choose a smaller goal?
- Am I that dumb that people keep taking advantage of me?
Look at the two scenarios and see what answers you get for each one of these. Depending on the kind of questions you ask, you will get corresponding answers. You can ask why or you can ask why not, it is up to your mental balance and strength. We all are pretty smart and we can easily find out the answers. We have smart people around us, we can discuss with them, we have our mentors who can guide us.But it does matter as to what question we ask these mentors. For as you sow, so shall you reap!
Judge a Man – The Questions you ask!
The questions do mean a lot in life, not just for the sake of saying it, but for the sake that they define where your life is headed and how you are going to shape your life. You can wallow in weaker questions or ask better questions to improve the quality of life.
And the kind of questions a person asks largely defines the kind of people around him and also the quality of answers he is going to get.
So next time someone says that the answers mean everything, you may for once stop and ask – Answers to what questions? And that is going to make all the difference!
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