I can be happy by making others happy!

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“Happiness is a perfume you cannot pour on others without getting some on yourself.”

– Ralph Waldo Emerson

I have been a great fan of Ralph Waldo Emerson’s quotes and this is one of my most-liked lines.

Few days ago, we were at an NGO, it was the time for evening snacks and we were eating the cake which was distributed equally among all. A small boy, after finishing his piece of cake tried taking a little from the girl beside him. The girl was reluctant and went away but after sometime I saw the same girl coming towards him offering her share.  It took me by surprise and I asked the girl “You don’t have a cake now, are you not sad?” The girl replied “He is happy” and I asked “You?” and she said “Of course I am happy” I couldn’t say anything further; the girl reminded me how beautiful it feels to make others happy.

Thinking about the incident I asked myself “What’s happiness?” A beautiful phenomenon of keeping yourself in an exciting mood, celebrating the life you live, for the person you are and for the beauty world offers you. A feeling which says, there are plenty of things to upset you but you prefer to live the moment.  I asked the next question, “What should I do to be happy?” The answers linked with other people. People who comfort you, who rejuvenate your spirits, the ones who make you feel happy.  And when I asked “How can I make someone make me feel happy?” The answer was right there “Make them happy”.

Happiness is reciprocal. You make someone happy and you are happy, either by them or by the act of making them happy. It may be a little out of comfort to make others happy at times.  But more often the effort, money, time and the energy spent will always be rewarded with much more happiness than expected. And who doesn’t like such rewards?

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21 thoughts on “I can be happy by making others happy!

  1. Well said Vinay, I guess this is very much true for everyone: “Happiness is a perfume you cannot pour on others without getting some on yourself.”

  2. Vinay,

    Nice post!

    The definition (perspective) of happiness is the most evident, but still difficult to understand. It wants us to shift our sole perspective towards everything around us!

    I imagine the world where this sort of happiness exists, and you know what, it already makes me feel happy!

    One of my everyday bucket list entries should include ” Make someone Happy!” 🙂

    Thanks for sharing.

    1. Thank you Amit :). True, the definition plays a significant role in our feeling of it as well. It is a lovely way of putting across happiness in imagination as well Amit, very few people actually have the power to do that. I am happy to know that this post did create a few smiles. Thank you!

  3. Very true. One cannot be happy all by oneself. Genuine happiness is osmotic: it passes on to others.

    1. Thank you Matheikal. I like the usage of the word osmosis, reminds me of my high school biology class. Although I don’t remember anything else they taught, this one word seemed to remain and now it has a purpose too. A very clever usage indeed 🙂

  4. Thats a beautiful quote. We are always running in search of happiness. But we don’t realize the fact that we can find happiness even in the smallest act of kindness that we do. Hardly people realize this fact and live the race of life without being happy.

    1. Perfectly placed Krishna, it reminds me of a quote – “Little things don’t mean a lot in LIFE, they mean everything”. I think we are so lost in trying to find meaning in the bigger things that we tend to forget how important the small things are in life. And those are the things which are going to stay with us for a long long time, the bigger ones are ephemeral!

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