Everyone always advocates the high road when it comes to achieving happiness in life. And there are so many quotes, each one more romantic than the other, sometimes which makes us feel that this stuff is way too good to be true. But yet, there is a part of us which wants to believe that this actually might be true and can improve the way we lead our life. With that in mind, we thought we would present you with a set of 8 simple quotes followed by a practical angle towards how to achieve this happiness on a consistent basis. Of course none of these quotes or discussions are ever complete without your thoughts. We are very eager to listen to what you have to say about them.
The meaning of Happiness
Simply stated – happiness is the state of being happy, not being perturbed by the daily occurrences, a pleasant state of comfort and contentment from within. If those words of Joy, exhilaration, bliss, satisfaction etc strike a chord with you then that is exactly what happiness is.
And we all have a personalized definition of what makes us happy. It is never a one size fits all solution. For some, seeing someone else smile makes them happy, for some the answer is in philanthropy and for some it is making more money and gaining fame in the society.
It is never the same for all of us and that is what makes it so beautiful as well and worthwhile to be on a pursuit as to what happiness means to us and how it evolves with us to create more meaning to our lives.
Happiness is selfish
Someone told us that it is actually being a little selfish if we look at only ourselves. A happiness quote said –
It’s not selfish to love yourself, take care of yourself and to make happiness your priority. It’s necessary
Even the bible for that matter says – Love thy neighbour like you love yourself. It doesn’t ask you to keep the world happy while you suffer and trust me you cannot shower or spray happiness on others while you keep feeling sad. It is as simple as this – You cannot give something you don’t have. So better make sure you have that first. Better make sure that you are striving for your own happiness before helping someone to find it.
It is not a bad standard to have is it? Inreturn you get to lead a more joyous life which certainly is a welcome change.
Happiness is not easy
Nothing worthwhile in life is ever easy is it? Every achievement we are proud of, every little thing or big thing we do and every precious moment of our life took a lot of effort. And perhaps that is why it means so much to us. None of us will be supremely happy with a free meal. The sense of contentment in earning and deserving something is a crucial aspect of life.
“Things that matter are not easy. Feelings of happiness are easy, happiness is not. Flirting is easy, love is not. Saying you are friends is easy, being friends is not”
And if you want happiness to count in life, then you better believe that there is more to it than a smile. There is smiling through pain, there is facing an adversity head on and above all there is life in all those emotions which make it matter so much to you. Don’t take happiness for granted, it is a priority in life and better treat it as one.
Happiness is a priority, a choice!
We have seen a lot of quotes which talk about happiness is a choice. Some say it is easy to be happy the moment we choose to. But there are so many challenges in life we all face on a regular basis that it tips us off. The pressures are so high that it makes us wonder as to why we do what all we do and sometimes happiness does take a backseat. Maybe it is worthwhile to remember in such situations that
“Suffering is an option, happiness is a choice”
And as always there will be challenges, there will be factors which make us wonder and doubt our lives but again we just need to remember what is more important to us, merely being a part of the routine of life or taking it ahead in the direction we want.
“Don’t be fooled by your emptiness, there is so much room for happiness”
Happiness is not perfection
And above all, happiness never is a perfection. For all those people who have those rules as to what should make them happy. Please think again, the more uptight you are about being happy, the less happy you are in the process. There are so many ways you can be happy in life. If you only wait for X and Y to happen to make you happy then you are probably headed for a disaster!
“Being happy doesn’t mean that everything is perfect. It means that you have decided to look beyond imperfections”
And no matter what we do, there will be imperfections. There will be mistakes. But what matters is how we work around those imperfections in life, how we find what is most important to us. Like we said, it is easy to be sad – real easy to be sad, but it takes more than that to be happy, especially consistently happy!
“The key to happiness is letting each situation be what it is instead of what you think it should be”
And it is also about being smart about happiness and knowing that things will never be perfect. It is about looking at that big picture and seeing how well this fits in the process. The more focussed we are on what we want and as long as happiness is a priority, we have a better chance at getting there.
“The happiest people don’t necessarily have the best of everything, they just make the best of everything they have”
Happiness is appreciation
We are so well trained by our culture and education that we miss out noticing the many little things that can make us happy. Ww are so goal oriented and achievement focused that we miss out on the simple nuances of everyday life which can make us smile from within, which can actually keep the entire energy cycle of life going. We sometimes just need to step back a bit and look at what we have, what we can appreciate and be thankful for. Cos that is happiness and that is going to take us a long way.
“Life is all about taking chances, appreciating memories, learning from the past and finding happiness”
How to be happy?
And finally that one question – how to be happy?
It doesn’t take an extraordinary event to make us happy. All it takes is the small little things that can make us smile. Decide today to make happiness a priority over an option. Make sure that it is a part of your everyday diet. Don’t wait for something to happen to make you happy. Make it easier to make you happy. Reduce your rules and increase your options and you are finally headed to the goal of being really happy.
The Practical Stuff!
Where to find happiness?
Once you find your own answers to all of these, there comes a question as to where to find this happiness and how to make sense of it?
Of course all the details we have talked about tell us the theoretical and romantic perspective of happiness. But how do we touch and feel it? How do we make it more tangible and real? How do we experience it and more than that, how do we control and create more situations that we are happy?
Well, the answer is pretty simple and theoretical – We always find things what we look for. The situations and outcomes around us are mere situations and outcomes. It is we who associate meaning to it and what it can imply to our lives. We can go ahead and create a meaning we like or create a meaning which we absolutely detest and say that life is an absolute mess with little opportunity to be happy or feel good about things.
At the same time, we can live as if every moment is a gift and we cannot find a reason not to be happy and smiling. Of course, we are not asking you to be naive and believe either extreme of them. But there is some sense to it when the quote says happiness is found within and so is the meaning of it.
If we consciously focus on being happy and finding reasons for it. It may be through simple steps like maintaining a diary and writing down a log of all the things that made us smile during the day. Maybe pictures of people who made you smile or a song which helped you shift your mood. Maybe something you contributed to someone else’s life which made you awaken your sense of belongingness in the society. Maybe a tiny moment of inspiration which made you feel that life is a beautiful place. Maybe that small droplet of dew in the morning which made you feel incredibly innocent, even though it was for a split second.
I think there are these tiny symbols of greatness in life which we see everyday and we all experience them in different times of our life. But we are so busy and occupied in solving problems of our life that it becomes a bit difficult to maintain our focus on the good things. And that is where this log comes into picture. We are not saying that this is the only solution, but this can be an incredible start to show how rich your life is than you think.
Maybe worth a shot, don’t you think? What are your tips to maintain the glow of happiness. Please share your thoughts with our readers and it can surely make a tonne of difference to a lot of our lives.
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