Are you a person who tries to escape meeting new people? Or are you the one who hides out with the fear of being embarrassed? Or are you the one who is wishing to be more confident? Well I was all the 3 earlier. I was so shy that I always asked my friends to buy food for me in college canteen in my 12th grade and that too in a women’s college. Heights of shyness! Right? Well I am happy I am not the same anymore. But sometimes I tend to be a little shy. I have found this video to help me get over my bits of shyness from here on.
How do you define yourself :
The way you label yourself is a way of sub-consciously telling your mind that you have a set of rules and that’s how you must behave. The more I describe myself to be shy the more I tend to prove it to myself and I would classify every action into two categories as the things that should fall under the category of “Not-So-Shy” and the things that should fall under “Shy” and obviously I tend to be more comfortable with the “Not-So-Shy” category because that is what I believe in and that’s where I have seen the comfort so far.
Erasing the definition:
Erase all the words you are unhappy about and still use it to define yourself. Start defining yourself better. Change doesn’t come instantaneously so fake it initially as they say “sometimes you have to fake it to make it” Once you are used to the happiness which the change brings you wouldn’t want to let it go. And that extraordinary feeling will help you find ways on its own.