This article has been reduced to a summary and replaced by a comprehensive article on 10 practical tips to deal with criticism. There is a fine balance between criticism and feedback. This article talks about 10 different steps in this process:
- Identify why they are criticising you
- Find out the message beyond a critic’s anger
- Distance yourself from the situation to focus on dealing with criticism
- Empathise and understand the point of view of your critic
- Listen to valuable feedback amidst criticism
- Find out a use for criticism – a practical direction to move ahead
- Deal with criticism by providing a plan/response strategy
- Show small but consistent results of progress
- Deal with criticism by working with your critics to collaborate
- Listen to Feedback, iterate and Improve
Absolutely adored the article…keep inspiring like this….I am totally ok with constructive criticism but just demeaning someone for the sake of scoring a point or two …totally against it…empathy is at the core of this I guess.
Thank you Chaitali. Happy that you liked the article :). It is an absolute delight to be writing these genre of posts :).
I agree, if the point of the criticism is just to hurt someone, then it does not deserve any place at all, it is something I would scoff at right away.. But I guess it has become such an integral part of our lives that there doesn’t seem to be a way around it..
Criticizing someone is quite easy, but if you consider the same task, I am suppose you might also face the same issues on which you are criticizing others.
Nice post Vinay, I am really glad to see such posts on your blog. You have the real talent to make such posts :)
Thank you Alok :). I am really happy to be bringing out such posts which can add value to people :). Looks like we are slowly inching to the niche area of the blog :).
I agree, criticism is one of the toughest things, both to give and to receive.. But I guess there is no way around it, it will be a part no matter where we go. The best we can probably do about it is try and be as sensitive as possible about it :)
Good points. One critical point: try to criticize in private, preferably one-to-one. Of course, praise in public!
Thank you mate. I think the points 3 and 4 have briefly touched the criticism in private sector. I see the point though, it does deserve a highlight :)