It is so easy to say this right – “Be Brave”. Especially when you are going through something really hard and all you need is some support, it really pisses you off when someone comes to you and says that. Yet you smile and take it in the good spirit and leave a faint smile. I know we have all done that and it certainly is not the easiest smile to give out, especially when your heart doesn’t feel like.
Having said that, even we say that in most of our posts cos end of the day, we know that it is our actions that are going to make the difference we desire in our lives. And as we try to do that, the only goal is to get there and be in an elevated state of mind and actually enjoy the process as we know what we are trying to get out of the situation and how that is going to affect us. Just a simple mind over matter theory if you want us to sound technical 😀 .
But yeah, when someone says “Be Brave”, we also ask the question HOW? How can one be brave when things around us are crumbling. Of course we know the quotes which say that bravery is the best thing in life. But here is the thing about quotes –
Most of them don’t tell how!
So, although we love these quotes and the words of inspiration, we also need that energy to propel us into action. And Brene Brown has two simple tips to “Be Brave” in life.
1)Somebody who is willing to pick you up:
For us to be brave, we also need to get rid of our fear. We also need to know that it is ok to make mistakes and someone out there is willing to back us up on our worst days. We all need support and we all need a trusted circle of friends or family or the special one who is by your side and constantly bolsters your confidence – not by finding faults but by telling you that it is alright. And we need that in all walks of our lives – whether you are an entrepreneur or an investor or an employee, that someone who nurtures us also picks us up and makes us way stronger than we think we are.
2)Absolute clarity of values:
Brene talks about choosing the values that means a lot. Choosing between the two C, either Courage or Comfort. Isn’t this the most commonly seen dilemma in people? The ones who want to quit their job to do what they dream but the value of comfort holds them back. The ones who want to follow their dream and the ones who don’t want to quit the security of a monthly salary, the ones who want to feel utterly loved but also the ones who are afraid to give up on the comfort of a friend zone. I think we will find that question within ourselves in our lives – sometimes way more than we can fathom.
But what really helps at these stages is how strong we are on about what we want. This absolute clarity of values helps us sustain our decisions over a longer period of time. These values help us define ourselves and help us counter the conflict of outcomes in our daily lives.
We are never going to say that either of these is easy. But we are saying that either of these can have a large impact on our lives, they can define how we are going to live our life and what values we are going to portray to the world and that is something special!
So, when someone says “Be Brave” – feign that interest and feign that smile – you know what your life demands. Take up your life into your own hands. Don’t let the circumstances bog you down and for that – you do need a cushion and the above two can be great cushions to build your foundation on.
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