LETS BE MORAL, APPEARANCES DON’T MATTER
I guess anything I say about this picture would be an overly cliched one. So many people have spoken about appearances and why they don’t matter at all and how important it is to treat the person for the inner self than the outer experience. I agree to the entire philosophy here and I also agree that we should treat all of them equally cos we never know how worthy they are.
WHAT IS APPEARANCE THEN?
But then another question that comes to my mind is this – “What is this appearance then?” If it doesn’t matter at all, why do we spend so much time in grooming ourselves? Why are there thousands of companies which work on beauty products, clothes, expensive jewellery, fairness creams and so on.. I mean the list never ends, if we are all those who shouldn’t judge (Why people judge?) then its a simple world, there is no need for this quote, there is no need for those companies and so on..
DO WE FOLLOW THE LOOK GOOD DEAL COS WE DO IT FOR OURSELVES?
Some may argue that we like to look great for ourselves so that we can feel confident and good about ourselves. I do respect that but somehow I don’t know if I sound too much of a cynic when I say we also do like to see how the world responds to the way we look.
WHAT ABOUT FIRST IMPRESSION?
And I am not going to say that it is wrong, it is not that wrong to create a first impression on someone based on the way they look. If I come across two people on the road, one wearing a coat and neatly dressed and the other shabby, I would certainly go and talk to the neatly dressed one over the shabby one. You may find it a little superficial of me to do it but I’m sorry that is the first feeling I get.
I DID TRY APPEARANCES DO NOT MATTER
For a while I tried believing in the first school of thought that says appearances do not matter. And I even tried following it to the letter, I went to a lot of these meeting places in dress I was really comfortable in which was a kurta and jeans. Most of these times I was stopped at the security gates, esp at the corporate offices and they wouldn’t let me in. Then I thought I would still fight and prove that I am right. A lot of those meetings did happen but it did take a lot of unnecessary conversations and explanations.
So we finally decided to succumb to the societal norm and dressed up nice, made sure we take our car to the meeting spots. We weren’t just let in, we were in fact treated with a whole new respect altogether! That was when the truth came to us – Appearances do matter!
But truth is, appearances can only take you to an introductory stage and that is the extent of it. It doesn’t go any further, people frame an opinion of you and you would have to live up to that and that is where your character comes in. Although I have argued all through this article that appearances matter, and I do stand by it, I also am of a very strong opinion that they matter only up to the basic level. If you want to leave a mark beyond that, make sure you bring your character along, that will do all the speaking.
After all, an appearance can give you just an entry point, not the whole deal!