Troubles are temporary!
Don’t worry, I will not bug you with this quote! Nor am I going to say that everything is going to be magically alright and life will be hunky dory and you will never have to face anything negative ever again.
Meanwhile in the real world, let us get back to what is bothering us. We all have been through a lot in our lives. So many things we thought we deserved and so many others which we didn’t – like our troubles ;). Well I will not be getting into what was deserved or what was not. Not today.
But today, we are going to talk about what we do about these troubles.
The most natural thing to do when something is bothering us is to go out and seek advice on life.
Here are the 6 types of people who you will find on this journey!
1) The Optimist
Everything is going to be alright!
But these kind of people are used to these questions, they say- Eventually the right path will come to you. You have to be patient in your life and discover what life has to offer you.
Some go to the extent of saying that “God is there to support you in your journey. You are not alone”
Meanwhile you are still wondering how to get rid of the troubles you are facing.
But having said that, these people are also extremely important. We all need to hear that things are going to be ok. We all need that hope in life and we all need the push to discover the real solutions to our troubles.
Let us for once base our argument today on the premise that no one else can help you but yourself. We do go out and seek respite – not cos they are going to solve our troubles magically, but sometimes we just need that hope!
We all need that optimist for advice on life!
2) The Sympathetic Ear
There There! Tell me what is bothering you! I am here for you!
My friend is in trouble. I am there for my friend, even if I don’t understand what the problem is, I will be there for them. Atleast talking to me makes them feel better.
These kinds of friends are great, they make you feel important, they don’t neglect you, they don’t make fun of you.
But the trouble is that they don’t even correct you. They don’t give you the advice, not because they don’t want to help you, but because they are trained not to!
Once in a while, we need to hear that we are wrong, it is not that we did not deserve anything. Things happened because there was a mistake and maybe the price paid is heavy, but cribbing about it isn’t going to solve it.
You need someone to push you into action.
3) The Punisher
Blame the victim!
These kind of friends take the complete extreme of tough love. They think that everything is your fault and easily blame you.
In other words they simply say that you are facing it because you made a mistake, you were incapable of something, you were not able to meet the requirements.
These kind of friends play the role of a punisher. When you are down, they sure find a way to push you down further giving you ample reasons to avoid talking to them.
But again, these are important too. Maybe just to realize how stupid people can get in their thoughts 😀
4) The Preacher
Advice Quote 1: “It is all an act of god/destiny/any other term you want to use here”
Maybe! It might be an act of god! It might be an unfortunate incident.
But that has already caused you the trouble.
We are not here to analyse or develop a post mortem report of your troubles. They have happened and that’s it! Period.
You can fixate on the Why a little later. What you need now is a way out, a solution, not a preacher standing in front of you to convince in the magic of the world.
I agree that the world is magical enough but at times, finding the solution becomes more important.
And once I find that solution, I will be in a better position to appreciate the world!
5) The Expert
No matter what your troubles are, I have the solution!
I have a different word for these kind of people- Egomaniacs! Seriously! Come on!
How can one person have solution to every kind of problem you face in life? They cannot have all answers or all solutions. If they did, they would never have any troubles in life at all.
These are the kind of people who will never connect to you, nor will they understand what you are going through. In other words it is best to avoid them.
However, if you still want to consult the experts, consult the experts in those particular fields.
There is a beauty in extrapolation. If you have overcome a challenge in your life, any challenge at all, it means that you can overcome this too.
All you need is to get into that mindset, try and understand how you can use the same emotions which you used to solve something else.
And if you need to go to an expert for that, go for it. You need the solution, and your solution sometimes becomes more important than your pride!
6) The Empathizer
Advice Quote 2 : What you do speaks so loudly that i cannot hear what you say
– Ralph Waldo Emerson
This is perhaps the best kind of advice you can ever find in this world. The world has enough talkers, the ones who talk right from the mole to a mountain.
There are people who promise the world and deliver a dime! But there are some fascinating people who have fought their way through these challenges in life.
These are the ones who understand what it means to be down and without much support.
These are the people who can sympathize with you.
These are the ones who can really lend you a helping hand, guide you in the right way.
And these are the ones you need to hold close to cos their advice is going to matter to you! And that advice is going to make sense.
The biggest challenge here it to identify who is where. And there are times you will be lucky enough to find every one of these advices in one person. And sometimes you would have to do your search.
But hey! Nothing comes free right?! We all have to pay our fees and that’s ok. We will find our way out.
It is our life and we know how to take care of it right? ;).
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