Problem Solving: The 6 Confusing Quests
We all hate our troubles, our problems and our challenges. There is no doubt in that!
Although morally I would say that these troubles or failures are the biggest friends in my life which help me develop and grow, I do understand that it really sucks to be facing these problems in life. And the quest to solve these problems is most times enervating, challenging, creating restlessness and what not. And as you go out to seek advice, the chances are that we are more confused than we started with. Our post on The 6 Types of People who advice you will give a clear picture of the kind of confusions we are in to when on this quest.
Anyways, after a lot of struggle, we do get into the mood of looking at our problem closely. And here are the 6 stages that take you through the process of your problems
If it is an outcome you do not like at all, then there is no way I would accept it right away. I would try and find a way to say that it has not happened, try and deny the occurrence of an event.
Eventually I know that it is true but yet I do not want to cast away the possibility cos I really liked the definition I had earlier and the new occurrence kinda wrecked the plans I had made based on.
No matter how much we would like to say no, I guess sometimes what has happened has happened and at some point we all have to accept that.
I agree that it is not the easiest thing to say yes to, but hey it has happened – the question is not how much you or I like it, it is not even about how it affects our plans, it is just that it has happened and we need to find a way out of it.
Definition of the Problem
Once we accept what has happened, the next quest is automatic. We know that something has gone wrong, it is not just a distant voice anymore, we are consciously accepting that something has really gone wrong.
There is a problem that has happened and we need to solve it and we need to find ways to solve it. It maybe creative ways or the tried and tested ways, but the fact is this much – we need to solve it.
In order to do so, sometimes, we need to step away from the problem just enough so that we can have a broader look at it and identify the big picture and how this incident affects the big picture.
If it largely affects the big picture and demands a course of action, then perhaps the solution is in making an overhaul of approach and then looking at different approaches you can take towards the solution.
But again, we have to ensure that we do not define the problem by what happens to us, but we define it by what has happened and what we want in the end. These are the two elements that will take us in the path of a solution.
Ideal math says that you should have atleast 3 options towards a solution! This is perhaps a little annoying cos when we are stuck in a challenge, it is hard enough to find one solution but I am asking you to find about 3 solutions here. And at some point I am quite certain that you might feel like throwing a punch on my face. Well, I feel like that too, but let us wait a bit before we waste a precious punch ;).
The math says find 3 solutions – the first one naturally being the most preferrable one, the solution and the path you would like to take. The second one is of course the plan B and the third one of the lowest priority. This is not to make you feel that you have plenty of options and life still seems fair. Maybe that is one point, but the real essence is that you need to exercise yourself enough to understand that there are solutions, sometimes beyond what we can comprehend right now.
Make those three options, delve into that confusion as to which one to choose. You will eventually pick that one choice which works the best for you.
Making a Decision
Once you have these many options, it is never the easiest choice to make to pick one and stay with it!
We all would love to take a perfect decision but experience and our past life has already taught us that there is nothing called a perfect decision. We talked about The 7 Silly Stages To Decision Making and we realize how challenging taking a decision is.
Perhaps that is the reason why it gets so exciting. We all know that we can be wrong and that excites us, that scares us and that makes us wonder what if things don’t work out.
But isn’t that the fun of it? Isn’t that the adventure we are all after in our lives. What is the point or what is definition of winning big if you don’t have the threat of a loss at all? And perhaps the greatest victory is when you have a large hand at stake – just like gambling you see 😉
Acting on the Decision
This perhaps defines it all! We all are very smart people, we spend a lot of time on analyzing our problems, finding out various options we have, performing the permutations and combinations as to why a solution might not work.
But in this process, sometimes we seem to forget the most important part : Acting on our decisions. Of course this is the toughest part and the theory will sometimes be way different from what we see in action. The theoretical part always seems very rosy compared to what we face in real life.
As Ralph Waldo Emerson says:
“Your actions speak so loudly, I can not hear what you are saying”
And that is perhaps why history has always been very kind to the performers than the thinkers. A war was never won by the planner, he led the way, it was the executor who made the difference. I am assuming you are the executor too. You don’t want to be a thinker or a philosopher, right now – the priority is to solve your problems and right now, let us just look at that. And the rest I am sure will simply follow you on your path to fulfillment!
Looking for feedback
Along the way on our decision, we will encounter a lot of these situations where things don’t seem to work at all. At this juncture, we have a question that surfaces – Do I need to find an alternate path, was the decision which I took wrong? Am I as stupid/silly as this outcome is making me feel?
Well, I would try and point you towards a different question – Is there a way I can make this decision work? If so, HOW?
If not, what changes can I make to make this path work for me? We all have been very objective in our lives, but let us for once be a bit subjective. Let us once not care about whether something is going to work or not. More often than not, the question has to be about
How can I make this work rather than whether?!
Staying on Track
And stick to your track. By definition – Decision Making means that you cut off all other options from your life and stay committed towards this one decision – the decision to make it work, the decision to get your life back on track.
None of the solutions or thought will magically help you in the end if you do not persevere. The real solution is in your actions and your perseverance.
“Are great things ever done smoothly? Time, patience, and indomitable will must show”
– Swami Vivekananda
Nothing in life was ever promised to be easy and I guess nothing in life ever will be easy, but we need to be there as long as it takes to find that solution.
That is how all the biggest achievements in this world in the world have been made. If people can make such big achievements with perseverance…
What is stopping us?
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